realise where that feeling comes from
i bet it comes from being hurt and getting hurt in the past.
And i understand it. Your having a real crush on each other now. Your emotions will probably change over time again.
And it is natural to want to protect yourself from being hurt again.
By doing that however you also protect yourself from giving everything you have.
And recieving everything he has to give.
It is cool if you want that. Or if you talk about it
or if you even just take your time relaxing towards each other.
i dont think theres anything wrong with doing what you do.
Its just that holding back doesnt really mean you cant get hurt
but it usually means you cant fully appreciate the other person.
If you think I am insulting you with my post or bashing you: You do not get the point.
I am not here to insult or bash anyone. I offer up my free time to help. Take from my post what is useful to you.
If you are angry about my post or myself, then please stop and think how that happened. Usually that is the way the brain responds if a critical belief system is challenged (its called cognitive dissonance). If you have trouble with it please answer in the thread. I will come back to you.