Want to get together with my ex

[spacemanspiff]

Okay, long story, here goes. Last spring, I was a high school senior and there was this girl who I thought was beautiful as can be, she was a sophomore, and I didn't have much courage to talk to her. I had a friend who was good friends with her, eventually I got him to introduce me. I talked with this girl for awhile and eventually asked her to my senior prom. We went and had a blast. We then hung out more and were in that "talking stage." We went to a concert together early that summer, and had a great time, I could see there was something. About two weeks later, I was away and didn't talk to her for awhile, and realized how much I missed her, so when I got back I decided to ask her out. We went out from mid-July until I left for college in late August. We talked about what to do and decided to give a long-distance relationship a try. Three weeks into college, I surprised her by coming home and we had a great weekend together. Two weeks later, I returned home for a fall recess and could sense something was wrong. That weekend was really weird, and I had a bad feeling. Sure enough, when I got back to college, she called me and said she didn't feel the same when I came home.

We broke up and it was really weird. I was very sad, and decided not to talk to her for a while in fear that I would just stay depressed. She kept IMing me and telling me to give her a call when I got a chance. Eventually we hung out over Thanksgiving and right before I left she asked me to her high school Christmas Ball. I agreed to go, I was obviously still into her. It was good, she acted in some ways that made me think she still liked me, but she kept talking about this other guy. I asked my friend who knew her about him, and he said that my ex and this guy were in the "talking stage." As far as I know, nothing ever happened, and she stopped talking about him since after the New Year. I hung out with her when I came home over breaks for college this spring semester. We talked about once every week or two weeks on the phone. This continued until the day I came home from college, when she left me a message while I was taking my last final exam. When I called when I got back from college that night, she asked me to go to her junior prom. I agreed, again because I still had feelings for her. We went and had a great time, and she didn't act like she did when we went out, but more like that than during the Christmas ball. Now she's about done with her junior year of high school. We have plans to go to a few concerts this summer, and she has said that she has been looking forward to that since last November.

I really want to go out with her again, but I'm not sure if she wants that. I get ideas that she does. For example, we unofficially had a "song", #41 by the Dave Matthews Band, and in her AIM profile, she once put "#41...imu" ("I miss you"). She has also put in her profile that she misses the summer, and she constantly told me last summer that that summer was the greatest of her life and she wouldn't have had a great time without me. She's had lyrics in her profile about love that's gone but she wishes it back, lyrics about wishing it was the summer again, all stuff that I think points back to me. Lately, we've been talking more and once we had like an unoffiicial double-date. She keeps saying how her friends like me and all think I'm funny and stuff. When we're together, we have a great time, but I really don't know if she wants to go out again. I know I do, I really think I love this girl, and thinking about not having her kills me. I resist telling her how I feel because I feel that if I don't, there will always be hope that she wants to get back together. But, every day that I don't tell her how I feel, is one less day to spend with her.

To anybody who got through this whole thing, I salute you, and any advice, positive or negative, would be greatly appreciated.

[Nameless18]

See this is some of the problems of a long distance relationship. Theres no such thing as the saying "Distance makes the heart grows fonder". It just gets more troublesome. Though there are some couples who can survive the long distance phase, most have trouble with it. However, what i've learnt is that to never keep things inside. What you wanna say, you should just tell her how you really feel then listen to how she feels about you now.

[Tone]

Tell her how you feel. Don't keep it bottled up.

[marcus23]

Yes, that's right. Tell her. However, you might bought her a nice flower. Girls like that.

[artyemi]

I agree with everybody here. We can't tell you what she thinks because we're not go.. Valiente, valiente, valiente.

Talk to her.

[jay12]

Go for it man, but id be hesitant about the flower, not all girls are like that.

[spacemanspiff]

Okay, I'm going to try and see if she feels the same way real soon. Tonight we went out to dinner, and somehow in the discussion she mentioned that a friend of hers had asked her if she knew one of my ex-girlfriends, and when she said it she seemed that she didn't like my ex, even though she's really nice. Made me feel confident that she may like me still, after all, she doesn't like my ex who I still get along with. She also did a good amount of that extended staring thing. We will see soon what happens, thanks to everyone for their advice.