Originally Posted by
Gemini10182
You're right but why did it have to be him
because he - unlike you - doesnt have issues in bed and doesnt hold back
he likes it and makes her enjoy herself.
simple as that.
Its terrible what you have gone through - but you cant and should not blame other people for deficits you have.
If you dont enjoy sex and its too much for you then find someone who doesnt want or need much sex.
If you want to learn to enjoy it - then do so.
Quit being the product of what happened to you in the past. I know this is harsh, but for the sake of yourself:
find out what you want
and then go do it. Regardless of what you have experienced in the past. You have all the resources to enjoy your life to the fullest extend.
If you hold back because of what other people did to you - then you hold back for them (not for yourself).
If you think I am insulting you with my post or bashing you: You do not get the point.
I am not here to insult or bash anyone. I offer up my free time to help. Take from my post what is useful to you.
If you are angry about my post or myself, then please stop and think how that happened. Usually that is the way the brain responds if a critical belief system is challenged (its called cognitive dissonance). If you have trouble with it please answer in the thread. I will come back to you.