Originally Posted by
bdpaul
I got married to a very lovable wife.
shes "A" wife then? and she is "loveable"
such NICE words of you. Possibly she is a very nice and loveable person to be with, too? Probably she is also reasonably good looking and friendly in general?
be vary of the way you speak. Because this is where people get the idea from.
She has the problem - so she should come here and seek help.
I understand that you dont know what you can do. You can show her how much you love her. You can tell her that yes you think your ex is a great person and you had a really good time with her. I dont understand what is wrong about that. On the other hand you must make her feel that you love her now and that she is the number one person in your life now.
You can tell her how you feel (helpless, sad, worried sick and deeply in love, hurting to see her hurt so much) because you dont know what else you can do to make her see that she is indeed the woman you love and want to be with for the rest of your life. So if there is anything that would make her see how much you love her and how much you want to be with HER then could she please tell you what she is missing?
If you think I am insulting you with my post or bashing you: You do not get the point.
I am not here to insult or bash anyone. I offer up my free time to help. Take from my post what is useful to you.
If you are angry about my post or myself, then please stop and think how that happened. Usually that is the way the brain responds if a critical belief system is challenged (its called cognitive dissonance). If you have trouble with it please answer in the thread. I will come back to you.