What do you want
I think one of the most common problems is that people wonder what they should do. Should they... - or rather not? Or even worse: why am I here?
Sadly they don't realize that these questions are wrong:They don't get you anywhere.
Let's imagine for just a second that there was a person (besides yourself) who could give you THE correct answer to your question, what use would that answer be to you?
That's right. Exactly nothing. You still can't know that he is right.
An example: You want to date person A. But you are not sure because of circumstances C. You come to this forum and or ask your friends what should you do.
Let us say I have made these exact experiences 1000+ times and as such I could give you the absolutely correct decision for you to make and to benefit in the long run.
However you do not know me or my experience. If I told you, you should do X because it is the right thing to do, how valuable would this advice be?
Thats right, it would be useless, because ultimatively you will have to make up your own mind and decide for your own.
So you may ask: what is the best question then?
Here are some other questions that might actually get you somewhere:
What do I want? (describe in rich detail)
What must not happen? What do I want instead?
What exactly will I get, if I finally have it?
What exactly will I feel if i have that? And what will that feeling then give me in return?
What keeps me from starting to do just that?
What are the exact steps that I must do in order to get what I want? What else must I do, or how else must I shape my circumstances to get that?
If I had that what I want how would I look sound and be in 1 month 1,3,5,15 years from now, in rich colorful description?
How can I get that?
Must I - and if so in what exact way - must I change myself to get where I want to be.
What else must I do, or how else must I shape my circumstances to get that?
What other ways are there to get where I want to be or what other ways are there to achieve the feeling I get from where I want to be?
What would be the first step in order to achieve what I want?
When do I take it?
I will probably refer to this thread from time to time.
If you think I am insulting you with my post or bashing you: You do not get the point.
I am not here to insult or bash anyone. I offer up my free time to help. Take from my post what is useful to you.
If you are angry about my post or myself, then please stop and think how that happened. Usually that is the way the brain responds if a critical belief system is challenged (its called cognitive dissonance). If you have trouble with it please answer in the thread. I will come back to you.