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    Confused

    So I met this guy 3 months ago – adorable, cute – not my usual type but I clicked with him straight away.
    We slept together 5 dates into meeting – mainly it was just Netflix and chill and to be honest I never mind – we enjoyed each other company and bodies.

    Now it’s three month since – last month he got super busy with work and few times I told him since we are not seeing each other regularly maybe it’s best we just remain friends – he contested this and explained he really didn’t want to stop seeing me and that it’s just really busy with work 7 days a week.

    Fair enough –I backed off and thought let just see how it goes.

    So here is the confusion bit – we met up last night – more Netflix and chill – I got high and become bit emotional or should I say scared that I was getting too close to him.

    So after we finished having sex – he was continually being affectionate and massaging me – and that when I felt emotional so I backed off and start being distant with him – he asked what was wrong and I said don’t worry it’s not about you.
    And after few times he insisted knowing as he got worried and thought he done me wrong – I said to him – “I am scared getting too close to you” and he replied – "well that’s the whole point we suppose to get closer" and then I felt stupid and changed the subject.
    so in the morning when he was leaving he was teasing me and I said “that’s not nice” I am not your friend anymore in childish manner and he got hold of me said “well I am not your friend, I am your man” I just played off and didn’t think much of it.

    So I don’t know what to think of it – he is very busy guy and hardly has anytime for me, the sex is great and he says how my “body belong to him” but we never had the talk and I can’t bring myself to ask.
    So I don’t know what to do

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    I would like to continue seeing him regularly- I am not big on labels so that doesn't bother me at all.

    I am not sleeping with any else but I am talking to other guys and some time do go on dates - he doesn't know this- we don't really discuss these things. But I don't think he would like it.

    So all I actually want from him is regularity but I don't think that's possible without commitment.

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