Sorry for length of post...
Need some advice or just to vent. I work with a guy who around 2/3 years ago we kissed on a night out and had been texting each other & he clearly wanted it to develop, a number of things fed into this but it just wasn't the right time for me. We didn't really speak for a while and for the last 2 years he so he's been in a relationship with someone & we've just got on with it at work, no animosity it's been fine. About 2 weeks ago we randomly started messaging again & he told me how unhappy he's been with her for months & has been trying to leave, it's just been complicated as he had nowhere to go & she's got a child from a previous relationship, he messaged me one day saying how unhappy he was and he's told her and she told him to leave then. So he's been at his mums and we've messaged but once I knew he'd left we decided to meet up and go watch a game of footy. We had a great time and he did kiss me goodbye, I was so happy! We've met up twice in total and the second time did have a few kisses and a fumble in the car, which is unlike me but I knew I had feelings for him & he had been there for some family issues this week which was so great.
Today i knew he was collecting his stuff from hers and moving in with a friend and we were meant to be going for a drink tonight, however I got a message from his ex saying enjoy my seconds, he's been coming home and ****ing me etc which has totally hurt me. I had it out with him and he said he did sleep with her, and wishes he could turn back time.
I just dont know what to think as I know we weren't together or anything like that, but we were both honest with how we felt with each other this time round and I do believe what he said to me and don't think he meant to hurt me. I just feel hurt naturally but also a bit stupid reacting like this as we aren't actually together, I guess I was really excited about where this could go & just don't know what to think.
I think some things she was saying to me were to hurt me as she's obviously hurt by their split but it was obvious something wasn't right and he's been unhappy since before xmas.
Mostly needed to vent but have no idea what to do??
its so hard as I really think we'd be great together, we have a connection and so much in common.
any advice??