Are All Hugs Innocent?

[MsButters]

Last week something very interesting happened between a guy friend (who I do like as more than a friend) and myself. We hadn't seen each other for a week or so and were walking towards each other. He approached me with his arms open and told me (he did not ask) to "give him" a hug. We've been friends for almost 3 years now and have never broken the touch barrier aside from maybe our hands briefly touching as we handed each other something. I'm not a touchy/feely person and from what I've seen he isn't either. I've also never really seen him hug anyone else aside from one other person one time. Anyway, it completely caught me off guard as I was not expecting this kind of encounter with him out of the blue like this, but I didn't want to reject the hug so as I went in for it I did ask why. He said it was a thank for something I'd done for him. It was nothing he directly benefited from, it was more or less just a show of support for him. Because it all happened so quickly and caught me off guard so much I don't recall anything about it like how our bodies were positioned or how long the hug lasted. I would say it lasted a few seconds because I had enough time to think about resting my chin on his shoulder which is what I did. It was a nice feeling, but still very weird and I'm trying to make sense of it even though it was probably innocent and there is nothing to make sense of. I just keep thinking about how it's been almost 3 years and we've had no physical contact and both of us are pretty much hands off kind of people from what I can see. So, my question is what do you guys think of this?

I think the question may come up on if he's showing signs that he likes me. I'm having a very difficult time figuring him out. Some days he acts like he does, other days it's like I'm invisible to him. He's not the easiest person to read that's for sure. IF he does like me in that way, would this be his way of breaking the touch barrier? What should I be looking for going forward?

[lovebroken]

Was not seeing each other for a week not a normal thing? Like you will see each other several times a week in passing? Then he definitely missed you, and giving the hug shows that and seeing you must have made him happy. I rarely have any male friends hug me unless I am grieving on something then they show compassion. Do you wish he felt the same for you as you do for him?

[MsButters]

Was not seeing each other for a week not a normal thing? Like you will see each other several times a week in passing? Then he definitely missed you, and giving the hug shows that and seeing you must have made him happy. I rarely have any male friends hug me unless I am grieving on something then they show compassion. Do you wish he felt the same for you as you do for him?

Yes, the time span of not seeing other was totally normal. We sometimes go for 2-3 weeks without seeing each other. Even after those lengths of times it's like it's no big deal to him to be seeing me again. We were never super close so hugging or making a big fuss over seeing each other again has just never been an issue. This definitely wouldn't have been an issue where a comfort hug would be appropriate. Yes, I do wish he felt the same for me. Sometimes I see, or think I see, signs where he does, but then he'll go really cold and distant again and leave me guessing. This hug incident just REALLY threw me for a loop. Even if he was just genuinely just trying to show gratitude and say thank you for what I did, it's not like him to go for a hug like this. A simple thank you is more his way of thinking. I just don't understand why he would go for the hug in front of everyone else that was there on top of it. He's just not a PDA kind of person from what I've seen. but at the same time we're not super close so maybe he has another side I haven't seen yet. I don't know.

[pcmaster]

I had innocent hug today that felt sexy. Didnt know its possible until today.