Originally Posted by
greenemerald
Coming from a woman's perspective, this is an easy one.
You are being jerked around. Plain and simple.
Reason why she gives you hot and cold treatment is because when some days she is down, she likes your attention.
When days she is not down, you can take a hike.
She is probably going through some stuff with another man.
And sadly for you, you are being used as a pacifier to her ego.
Women only behave this way when they know THEY DO NOT WANT TO BE WITH YOU AT ALL!
I MEAN....AT ALL!!!!
She is only using you to feel better about herself.
And when she gives you that attention, you think it is for you.
No, it is solely for her own benefit.
And when you ignore her, she doesn't like it.
Why? She can't feel better, that's why.
My advice: leave her alone. Ignore her. Not to play games or reverse psychology here.
You are being used. She knows it. You know it.
And frankly, women lose respect for men who do not act like men.
And the more you entertain her, asking her what's wrong.. the more you are begging her to treat you like a doormat.
If you continue to act like a doormat, and you get treated like a doormat, you have no one to blame but YOURSELF!
You should be loving as a man when the other person deserves it.
Continuing to love and entertain someone after you have been disrespected is an "eeewwww!" for women.
We just cannot, will not see ourselves being with you.
Leave her alone. Stop asking her how she feels. Be cordial. Be civil. Treat her in a business manner.
If she asks you what's wrong, just say "nothing is wrong. I'm good". Smile and walk away. (That's what I mean by ignoring.)
If she asks why are you are ignoring her, say "I'm not. I'm just working" and go back to what you are doing. (That's what I mean by ignoring.)
OR say "It is only ignoring if you are feeling ignored" Smile and walk away. (That's what I mean by ignoring.)
Be civil, but don't ask questions. Be civil, but stop opening your mouth and have more conversations.
Again, this girl will never see herself being with you.
She has no respect for you. Kinda hard to get that back.
The only way you will recover from that is to avoid her. Be cordial. But keep avoiding her.
She won't like it. She will probably have an attitude.
And if she does? You ignore that too as if you did not even notice it.
You're not getting what you want from her. She's not getting what she wants from you. Sounds fair, if you ask me.
You have more chance with her acting like this than acting like a doormat.
Trust me!
In life, you have to teach people how to treat you and what your value is.
You do this by having standards of behavior that you will not accept.
You don't have to be rich or good looking to create value and respect.
It is in your ACTIONS of what you do not accept is where you create value and respect.
People will do what you allow them to get away with.
If you don't place value on yourself, others will create that value for you.
And your value is VERY LOW in her eyes.
Like clearance-items-kinda low
Grow a spine. Stand up for yourself.
Be that man in a locked, glass casing at a store where women look at you and say to themselves "I wish I can afford that. Someday, when I have my stuff together, I'll be able to get that."
Until then, you stay locked in a damn glass casing and you do not got on sale. PERIOD.
Only those who can afford you and give you what you want are the ones you should have in your life.
Snap out of this. Go lift some heavy weights. Go for a run, a drive, whatever you have to do to snap out of this.
You have to love yourself more than you love her.
Do you love yourself more?