Hi everyone, first of all hi I'm rachel, 27 from the UK :-)
Here's the situation, I'm currently in what I think is a FWB situation and have been since April.
I came out of a 7 year relationship last September in what was a messy break up. Since then I have dated a few guys but failed to get on with anyone.
In April this year I met my FWB, he is a long time friend of my best friend. Anyway, we met on a group night out and I spent the night with him and we had sex. He lives with his parents.
So we've been sleeping together since April, with a brief spell of not in between.
Last month, I started dating again but didn't sleep with them and ended it as I didn't feel that we clicked.
FWB is not my usual type of guy, but he is funny and we can have a great conversation together.
Recently, we started doing stuff together, like walking our dogs together, going to pub quizzes, cinema etc sometimes just the two of us and sometimes in a group. He's been really supportive when me and my friend fell out, I've sat and drank wine with his parents and me and went on a camping trip with my friend and her boyfriend.
We still have sex, but last night really turned things on their head. We spent the night together at my place, drank some beers and watched movies together. However we didn't have sex, we cuddled and spooned.
Sometimes at parties when we've both had a drink we do get a bit PDA, our group of friends all know that we sleep together. He told me recently when he was drunk that I'm one of the best friends he has and he loves me as a friend.
All the above sounds well and good, however we have (awkwardly) spoken about our separate dating life, and he took a particular interest when I told him I wasn't seeing the guy anymore I had started dating. We both laughed about our Tinder fails.
We both admitted to each other that we'd given up on Tinder, but he has made it clear that he is not looking for a committed relationship but said he isn't seeing or sleeping with anyone else.
Bottom line is ultimately I am developing feelings for my FWB (surprise surprise), but I'm afraid that discussing that with him will break down the relationship we have now, and I'm happy how things are besides the confusion over feelings. We talk every day, see each other (sometimes in non sexual ways) once or twice a week. When he stayed over last night he'd forgotten his toothbrush so asked if he could borrow mine.
Really, I felt that I needed to post this to straighten out my feelings of confusion, but a third perspective on it would be great.
Thanks guys :-)