Please put my mind at rest

[SFABB]

I am engaged to someone I have been with for 5 years. Early on in our relationship, I had a one night stand with someone else after a night out, something I feel very shameful of. I messaged the woman afterwards on facebook to apologise and let her know that I couldn't see her again as I was seeing someone else.
I have since never heard from her other than a reply at the time abusing me for cheating.

Absent mindedly going through my messages on facebook recently, I clicked on her profile (we are not FB friends) to find a picture of a newborn baby posted on her first birthday. The date of birth would tie up exactly with when I slept with the woman.

There is a separate picture on the profile of the girl looking 3-4 years old. I have been going out of my mind looking into traits and whether they're dominant/recessive. I have brown hair and brown eyes, oval face and almond shaped eyes, all of which I understand to be dominant, though I know about carrying recessive genes. The little girl has very blonde hair, blue eyes, more of a square face and round eyes.

Am I driving myself insane for no reason? This woman could have contacted me and never did. I know she is on a low income so would definitely need assistance financially. She also has one older child. Thanks.

[Hooo!]

Ask her?
It’s the easiest solutio

[TheEvilJester]

Do you know if she was with anybody else within the same time frame? If the child was yours, I would certainly hope she'd tell you, but you never do know. Some people can be spiteful and immature. It sounds like the type of situation where you'd put your mind at ease much better just by asking. Otherwise you are probably just going to drive yourself crazy speculation, as it sounds you have kind of already started to do.

If you ask and she claims the kid IS yours, though, don't just take her at her word. You would certainly not be wrong to ask for it to be proven (paternity test, perhaps). Though, at the same time, be delicate in how you request. Make it clear you don't mean to accuse her of anything, but you just need to be sure.

In the end, if the kid IS yours, you certainly deserve to know that. If the kid is NOT yours, that will put your mind at ease and you won't have to be left wondering.

[madotnw_nihs]

I agree with Evil. I am assuming you don't want the kid to be yours, but what if it is. Will you tell your fiance? How is that going to affect your relationship? And what would be the reason the ONS is hiding it from you?
I know this is eating at you, but just think about all the outcomes knowing it is yours will bring.

[eternallybroken]

There is a few documentaries you can watch on YouTube that may suggest a few remedies to your situation

[janelove121]

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[janelove121]

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