Relationship in stalemate

[MJack9]

Hello, I am a Brit currently in Thailand and a few months ago I started dating a Filipina. Everything was going well for the most part. The problems have stemmed from a seeming lack of progression in our relationship. We are living in different towns and only see each other once a week and sometimes even longer. It takes about two hours to get to her town and longer when we go to a neutral town if you will. An issue we have is that her mother (though she's 24, she lives with her I am 26 living alone) isn't keen on her staying out too late and in turn spending the night with me. I know there is the different culture there but when we have discussed she is willing to spend the night with me at some point. We have kissed plenty and seen each other half naked but not gone the full way yet. When we spend time in bed we don't have sex we kiss and cuddle and then she goes to stay with her aunt usually if she's not going back home. I am paying for hotels but spending time in them alone. I think it's because of these restrictions she is under and I realised from the outset she is a Catholic. I realise that things are different for her but I have met many of her family including her mother more than once. I made a good impression with her family I think so I don't have a problem there. We went to a couple of Christmas parties and we have both professed our love for each other and I meant it I do love her very much and we have a great time together.

It just seems like we are progressing in some ways and not in others. When I saw her yesterday at time of writing we hadn't seen each other for three weeks. I was unwell last week and before that I spent new year with friends which I did invite her to but she didn't come (assuming she wasn't allowed). I tried to be romantic with her but at times I think she was getting tired of my romantic talk. We didn't have a bad time or anything, it was just an impression I got. It maybe didn't help that I had to go back to my town early evening and we couldn't spend more time together as I had to see the doctor in the morning. Anyway I'm not sure what to do next, I don't know how much time we will have. I am open to progressing in this relationship. I'm not sure if she is or if she's too afraid of going there which I find strange considering I've been to parties with her family and friends. I certainly don't want to end the relationship. I love her so much and she brightens my world and even she has said I am so dear to her. I'm not sure what to do folks. I would appreciate any advice.

[pcmaster]

Its great that you had good time together but if you want her to fall in love with you then it takes consistency. meeting each other regularly. I think 24 is enough for any country to spend night outside of home with opposite gender. people been starting families at this age. Anyway I dont think its cultural thing but more like listening, depending on parents too much.

So you been kissing. Its interesting that you havent went all the way. You know theres this type of sex without orgasm called karezza. After orgasm people get satisfied and lose interest in each other to some degree. So relationships stay exciting for first 1-2 years and then gets old or whatever. But with this karezza people been claiming that excitement last for decades, not just first honeymoon period in relationship. So you might want to research deeper in this. Also theres book about it called Cupid poison arrow.
Anyway I think you have to ask girl to reevaluate her priorities. Whats more important to her - her mother emotional comfort or your relationship progress. If girl is not ready to grow up then shes not ready to be in relationship. Simple as that.
Also better stop assuming things but talk them over with her. you have to adress these problems with her in person next time you see each other to decide where is your relationship is going and if its going anywhere at all and is it worth continue like that if changes are not made. Tell her what you want, ask her what she wants to happen and how you both are gonna get there. Perhaps you both just want different things, and thats fine but then you are not a right match.

[Hooo!]

What do you want to happen then? Best case?