May get back togather with ex....quick question...

[BlackTA2000]

Alright,

I was dating this girl for a little over 3 years very seriously. I needed some change in my life so I broke up with her. We've been apart for a few months and neither of us had went in either direction relationship wise....I was with one girl for a month and she was talking to this guy for a while.

I've been talking to her alot lately, and we both have no doubt that there is a future for us. The problem is we just need to take it slowly and let things develop.

Heres the thing, she said before anything ever would happen again was that I would need to talk to her mother. Her and her mother are very close, and she said that I would have to talk to her mom cause her mom is very upset at me for what I did to her daughter....I always got along great with the mom when we were dating and she is a very nice lady.

What is the best way to approach this situation. I'm really not that outgoing of a person and try to avoid confrontation if possible.

Any ideas?

Thanks

[BlackTA2000]

anyone, cmon?

[shh!]

Alright,

I was dating this girl for a little over 3 years very seriously. I needed some change in my life so I broke up with her. We've been apart for a few months and neither of us had went in either direction relationship wise....I was with one girl for a month and she was talking to this guy for a while.

I've been talking to her alot lately, and we both have no doubt that there is a future for us. The problem is we just need to take it slowly and let things develop.

Heres the thing, she said before anything ever would happen again was that I would need to talk to her mother. Her and her mother are very close, and she said that I would have to talk to her mom cause her mom is very upset at me for what I did to her daughter....I always got along great with the mom when we were dating and she is a very nice lady.

What is the best way to approach this situation. I'm really not that outgoing of a person and try to avoid confrontation if possible.

Any ideas?

Thanks

Well, I guess if you really want the girl, you'll have to suck it up and go speak to the girl's mom, if tha is what she is demanding. Small inconvenience if you love the girl, especially if you say you have a "future" together. Mom is going to be there, and you don't want to alienate her. Just make nice.

[whaywardj]

First, you and your girlfriend get REAL clear with each other about you're doing with each other this time around. (Offhand, sounds as if you're both taking the right approach; going slow to give each other a chance to show your true colors.)

Then, the three of you sit down together and talk. Your job in it will be to open and lead the conversation; be contrite; clear about your intentions; and calm. Your girlfriend's job in it will be to confirm everything you say.

Your objective is to regain her mother's trust. Just tell her the facts; how you've both reconsidered; and how you're both giving the matter deep and rational thought.

More or less along those lines...unless you're not sure. Then don't even bother getting back together. If you aren't sure, all that is likely to occur is you'll break up again, which is precisely what her mother is afraid will happen.

[misombra]

lol. i won't answer because i watched 'terms of endearment' today and it will make me bias.

[shh!]

Wah! That movie always makes me cry!