Been dating a girl for 10 months now (23M/23F). She's great. Very lovely girl and very sweet, but not always. She's also extremely needy and insecure in our relationship whereas I am not. She wants to be part of everything I do and complains when she cannot be a part of it. I'm going to a convention tomorrow with the boys for example, just the 5 of us and we want to keep it that way. I told her this and she just cannot accept it or let it go. Then I can either ignore her complaining or comfort her. Sometimes I ignore, to which she blows up my phone or I comfort her. Both suck.
I just feel like I need to constantly look after her and her emotions and it's draining me. Especially since I study full time, work at the university and practice sports 3 times a week. Having to deal with her feelings is just too much for me. It's turning into an almost daily thing where I have to comfort her for her home situation, her insecurities or neediness regarding me. At the same time I am afraid of breaking up because I will hurt her feelings, and I am scared of not being able to find another girl.
What do I want? I want her to not be so dependant on me, and to live more free of each other. She should not need me to take care of every single problem in her life.