What should I do to get over this feelings

[Fly4u]

I finally met my online friend after over 15 years. We got along quite well. I showed him around my city and so on. I feel that he has some feelings for me and so do I. I’m married and has one young daughter but my husband is away for work. My friend knows all this and he even met my girl and they get along very well. We never did anything more than holding hands while crossing the road which was couple minutes. Anyway, last night I met him, he asked me and my girl to sleep over with him. I told him that I couldn’t. However, my husband is still away but I still feel that I should not do like that even though I really wanted to. It was very hard for me to control these feelings. That night after I got home, I texted him I felt something strange about how he texted. It was very cold. He didn’t explain anything. That made me feel very bad. I couldn’t sleep all night. I felt like I wanted to threw up. I think it’s the stress. Until this morning I still feel the same and I can’t eat at all. I asked him if I could see him. I wanted to talk to him but he said we could chat and it wasn’t worth to drive a long way to see him. (It took me 1 hour or so depending on the traffic to his hotel). I asked him what had bothered me all night. He finally told me what was in his mind. He said he felt I didn’t want to be around him. He got me wrong. I explained him my reason. He just said ok and he didn’t care anymore. He seems different. He’s still cold to me. Anyways he’s leaving my city tonight, I doesn’t want him to feel shit about me when he leaves here. I want him to have good memories about us. I am confused and I don’t know what to do. What should I do for him or to get over this feelings.

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[bunnyhabit]

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he is obviously pissed at you for refusing to sleep with him. he wanted to fxxk you after a fifteen year remote relationship. only way to remain friends with him is to have sex with him before he leaves.

[DalM0m]

Nothing will get him over these feelings. After 15 years he assumed that when you met in person, you would fall immediately into his bed When you didn't do that he got annoyed. He's bad for your marriage. Stop talking to him & end this on line relationship. If your marriage is unhappy, divorce but don't cheat. You are on a very slippery slope to a physical affair. Think about it. You are on here whining about this guy feels without one thought to what your poor husband would think if he knew all these details.

[Minikimini]

Did he come in town with the express intention to have sex with you (and your daughter being in the same room?)?

I think this guy thought you and he were going to be having sex and that's why he came to your city--if this line of conversation has been going on for 15 years, I would think that he expected a different outcome based on what you two have been discussing for a decade and a half. So yeah, he's a bit over you now since you switched up on him at the last minute. He's probably thinking about all the money he's had to shell out to come see you and he's pissed at you, hence him being cold.

You can't control how he feels about you now. He's going to remember he spent 15 years grooming you for this moment and you balked at the last minute.

If you're confused and don't know what to do, then do nothing. The moment for him is gone now. I seriously doubt there is anything you can do, short of flying to his hometown and having sex from the moment you land til the moment you take off back home, that's going to change his mind on how he feels about you now.

This plan of yours doesn't sound like it was well thought out to its logical conclusion.