Trying to be the best guy for her.

[greg291989]

My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 5 months already. We met in an Asian date tour I attended a year ago. For those months, happiness is absolutely evident in our relationship. But just recently, I’ve been very busy with work. I’ve no time for her, especially in doing video calls since she’s living in the Philippines. As a result, she became cold to me, saying I have no time for her, saying I’ve been very selfish. It hit me, knowing I’m not giving her enough time. Now, how do I mend this? I want to be the best guy for her. What should I do to make her feel she’s still special to me, that I still love her? Please help!

[bunnyhabit]

you need to apologize sincerely and promise she will be your number one priority in the future. i am sure she has signed up to host another asian tour group to hook up with a new foreigner to replace you already. you better hurry before she is successful

[Minikimini]

My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for 5 months already. We met in an Asian date tour I attended a year ago. For those months, happiness is absolutely evident in our relationship. But just recently, I’ve been very busy with work. I’ve no time for her, especially in doing video calls since she’s living in the Philippines. As a result, she became cold to me, saying I have no time for her, saying I’ve been very selfish. It hit me, knowing I’m not giving her enough time. Now, how do I mend this? I want to be the best guy for her. What should I do to make her feel she’s still special to me, that I still love her? Please help!

You could try telling your job to quit making you so busy that you can't call/video chat with your girlfriend and see how far that gets you.

Yes, I'm being facetious. Of course your job doesn't care that she's pouting because this week, you got busy. That's not their problem.

This hasn't got anything to do with you being selfish. You are busy. Why isn't she? What is she doing with all her time and why isn't she working hard towards her future? Seems to me that she should be thankful she's got a boyfriend who has a good job and makes enough money so that when the busy period dies down, he will spend time and money on her. She sounds a bit like an ingrate.

The best guy for her might be a guy who is independently wealthy, yet has no ambition to the point where he's got a whole lot of free time on his hands to spend with her. She is being ridiculous and selfish.

Since quitting your job to free up time to devote to entertaining her is out of the question, carve out 15 minutes before you fall asleep each night to call her/facetime/skype with her. The busy time will die down and your free time will be your own again.