Hi guys!
I have a huge problem currently.
My ex boyfriend broke up with me back in the middle of march, told me he's gonna join special forces and has to return to the States in April already. he's an American soldier, currently stationed in Germany and we've been together for 8 months.
The break up got pretty messed up, we blocked each other everywhere on social media and there hasn't been any contact ever since.
Only two weeks after the break I found out via a mutual friend, that he's already in a new relationship with another girl, although he told me he's gonna be gone soon and so on and so on.
I then made the mistake that I started looking up his IG profile on another website and he's flaunting his new gf after only knowing her for two weeks all over the place. He's going out of his way to show everyone his new happiness and love.
I feel so devastated, I remember when we got together it was different. We already talked for like 3 months on the phone before we even met each other in person the first time (it was a long distance relationship). It took him three months to post something with me for the first time and he never posted so much stuff at once, I feel like he posted more this past week with her than he has been posting in 8 months with me.
The girl already changed her profile pic into a couple pic and made a playlist on Spotify with the title "husband" with songs from his playlists, some of them he had sent me just two days after we separated.
Of course now I'm telling myself she must've already been there before, cause no one makes a relationship that official just one week after knowing each other right? And that he's found the love of his life and that he's gonna marry her and take her to the States with him and so on and so on. Although I know that it first of shouldn't bother me anymore and second of it's pretty unlikely that within two weeks he changed completely and is now ready for a serious, committed, stable relationship. Cause he had a lot of issues with himself during our relationship, alcohol and drug abuse, depressed mood swings, sometimes he treated me really badly, showed no empathy or whatever, you could say it was an emotional rollercoaster.
I know, I know. Everyone thinks and tells me the same, that I dodged a major bullet and that he's not worth a single tear or thought anymore, but I don't know how I should cope with that. I feel like he never loved me at all and that he just fake loved everything in those past 8 months.
What do y'all think about?