When was the last time you flew over to see her?
Also--your brother and his wife's outcome is their outcome, based on their individual life experiences that made them who they are today. Same with this girl. She's not a clone of your sister in law. She is who she is because of her life experiences up to this point.
Having said that, LDR's without any actual movement to close the gap do not work unless BOTH of you have your self discipline on such a lockdown that nothing can knock you off of it. That requires two confident people who are confident in how they feel, what they want and that the person they're with is a good ROI, emotionally, psychologically and empathetically. You have to learn how to strangle disappointment in its crib and not let it grow and fester into full blown resentment. You do that by being realistic and not living in the future.
Figure out a way to make enough money to fly to her more often--you'll be able to find out the truth about who she actually is if you spent way more time in her presence. Skype/Facetime doesn't make relationships. That's done face to face.
Last edited by Minikimini; 14-04-18 at 10:00 AM.
People treat you the way they feel about you
If you choose to remain with someone who doesn't treat you well, you cease being the victim and become the volunteer.
~Derrick Jaxn -- look him up