LOL. Quarrels about who text who is ridiculous. The fact that he actually tells you he needs you to text him first already shows he is extremely insecure and immature.
I would do one of the following or a combination of (because I am sort of a bitch and I have lost respect for this guy):
1) laugh at his childishness (say something along the lines of "You need me to text you first? Are you in high school?" unless of course you guys are both in high school)
2) Give him what he wants and do text him first but only if you need something
3) Go radio silence, don't ever initiate, but respond to him. (at this point, you should already be over him)
A strong woman takes advantage of help she can get from people around her but she doesn't rely on them for anything
She uses logic and manages her emotions
She offers help either because it is a business transaction or out of kindness. It is never because she hopes others will return the favour or out of fear of losing them
She has her own mind and thinks for herself and knows that she has to be the one who bears the consequences of her decisions