Originally Posted by
TheEvilJester
Well, I think the first thing I would share with you is that you are not "in love." You have a crush. Don't get me wrong. I'm NOT at all meaning to belittle your feelings. I know from experience how amazing it can feel to have a crush on somebody, and how it can feel like you are in love. But, truth is you can't be in love with somebody until you've actually begun dating them. Otherwise it is just infatuation and/or a crush. You can't truly know somebody until you've actually gotten to know them a little better, and you can't truly love somebody (in the romantic sense, anyway) until you really know them.
Again, don't misunderstand me. I'm not meaning to belittle your feelings or imply that you don't understand love. Cripes, I think most of us spend the majority of our lives still trying to figure all that out. LOL! I just tell you this as somebody who knows from experience that it can be a HUGE help when you learn to better understand your feelings. It isn't easy, but it is a skill you can develop over the years. Because, truth is, a crush can feel AMAZING! You should be able to enjoy those feelings. You just don't want to let yourself fall too deeply into it for any one person unless and until you are actually in a relationship.
Especially at your young age. There could be so many women who could possibly turn out to be a great match for you. So, don't limit yourself by getting too hooked on any one crush, especially if you feel there are circumstances that may make it not work.
....Now, all that said....
There is not necessarily anything saying this DEFINITELY couldn't work. Sure, there are factors. She was with your cousin. She has a child (which maybe you are not ready for that if you two happened to get serious). That child happens to be with your cousin. So, those are a few checks in the con column. But, how close are you with your cousin? Just because she was with your cousin, even has a child with your cousin, that doesn't AUTOMATICALLY mean she's off limits. If you are super close to your cousin like you are practically siblings... yeah, then that might be awkward. On the other hand, if you barely even know your cousin and pretty much only see each other at family stuff, that MIGHT be a different story. I have cousins I pretty much NEVER see, so if some gal was their ex it might not make any difference to me.
Anyway, that was a lot of blah blah blah that I probably could sum up with just this:
Why not give it a try? I mean, if you decide the factors against it are too many/too big, then maybe you just forget about her and you'll see that in time you'll find somebody else. But, if you honestly don't think the factors against it are SO big a deal, why not just ask her out? Maybe she'll say no, but at least then you'd know and can move on. But, maybe she'll say yes.
Best of luck to you either way.