My husband and I got into one of those bone-deep discussion sessions. One of the things he asked about is why I have such a hard time with semen. I love oral sex, giving and receiving. And his own personal smell is very arousing. However, I cannot stand for his semen to touch me (as in outside the body) or to smell his semen. Vaginal is the only way I don’t have a problem with. The scent of his semen (not sweat or anything else) makes me extremely nauseous to the point of gagging/vomiting.
Most of the web discussions touch on diet being a factor to change the taste of semen, but what do I do when I cannot even withstand the feel of it on, say, my leg?
This has been a detriment to our sexual life, because my husband feels that he cannot enjoy sex with me (in the way he wants), knowing that I hate that part of sex (his word), and I cannot give him a reason why I have this reaction, nor how to “work on it” to maybe be able to at the very least, not throw up after sex. Kills that whole after-glow. =( He states he feels that I may even hate him, or am not sexually attracted to him, because I do not like the climactic ending on his part. Now, internally, I 100% love, and handjobs are fine... just... I have a towel close and it goes there. Not my chest or anywhere else on my body.
One research bit I found listed: “Her dispute with disgust rests largely on psychological evidence. She cites the work of the experimental psychologist Paul Rozin, who, after testing people's reactions to different disgusting substances, concluded that the core objects of disgust — feces, spit and semen — are all things that remind people of their own animality and decay. Disgust is revulsion at the prospect of taking decaying animal products into the body, she says. It guards the body's borders.”
While, yea said like that, that is pretty disgusting, that’s not what I think of semen. Or is it? I cannot site any specific reasoning for my actions, it simply... is.
So how do I a) correct it (to his way of thinking) or b) let him down gently that this is just the way I am?