Getting past my parents...

[BuzzLiteBeer]

Well, I just started high school and I haven't gone out on any dates, but thing is, I not "allowed" to go on any. Why? Cz of my ****in dad. All he cares about are my grades and he says that anything that will get in it's way (video games, tv, GIRLS, etc...) should be omitted from my life. So what if get a chance to go out on a date? What the hell am I gonna do? Say "Sorry, my dad won't let me"?

Any suggestions on evading my dad?

[jane]

well. you can lie and say your studing at the library but I doubt that will work.. why can't you date ? are your grades bad or are they just being over portective?

[sfalexi]

Overprotective. I've seen it many times. Then the person gets to college and lives away. Suddenly everything they were denied/forbidden as an adolescent is literally thrown in their face full force. Then they end up partying too much, studying too little and failing or near failing out of college. It's very common.

I was pretty close to this. Not REALLY overprotected, but enough where when I got to college I lost all study habits to revel in the amount of "freedom" I had. And I went to a hardcore military school so you can imagine how much freedom I had at home if military school was 'free' to me.

If you have a date, you tell your dad. You say, "This Friday I have a date with ______." If he gives you some speech or something what you might have to do is work out some sort of deal. Tell him that as long as your grades are high you should be allowed to go out.

Of course I don't fully understand how bad your dad is, and this might not be an option, but it's certainly worth a try (unless the situation is much worse than I'm thinking right now).

Alexi

[LightOn]

Yeah....Give your dad the idea of it being a christmas present maybe?!? or Hannuka if you all celebrate, by letting you go out on dates. Even a new years treat. Don't expect him to be willing though, he may be pretty firm about his decision. On the other hand he is your father so give him a chance to be lenient with you. How old are you Buzz?

You could try to sneak out, but are the risks really worth the consequences? Then again, mistakes is what being young is all about!

[sfalexi]

If he doesn't give you permission, you may have to sneak out. My parents had to sneak around their parents cause they weren't allowed to date. Now their married.

Of course now their splitting up too . . . but that's a whole nother story!

Alexi

[BuzzLiteBeer]

Damn..I was hoping that sneaking out or lieing about being somewhere else would not be my only options. But it seems that they are.

My dad isn't definitely not being overprotective. (As I said, he only cares about my grades in school...I'm averageing 94 and he's pissed...which is totally ridiculous)

He could care less what my social life is like. He only knows the names of my two best buds from elementary school and none of my other friends. I think he's worried about me doing freaky stuff or he'll always think of me as his dumass son and nothing more.

Is there no other way (and no...he would not give me that privlege as a "gift" for any occasion)

[sfalexi]

If he could care less what your social life is like, why are you worried? If he's worried about you doing freaky stuff, that's something you'll never be able to change. You can always just wait till you go to college and live on your own. How's THAT for another option!

Alexi