Not sure what to do...

[nebulachich]

I had a "real" date on 6/30 with a guy I had only been going out on lunch dates with even though he asked me out a lot for a few months. We went out for drinks then to a jacuzzi at a really nice hotel in the area. He put the moves on me and I ended up suggesting we get a room. He said it wasn't a good night to do so seeing as he had to get ready for a big presentation at work the next day. So we fooled around in the car a bit. When I kissed him I sensed something weird. I asked if he didn't like kissing and he said "It's a very intimate thing to me and certain people..." I said "Certain people what?" but he wouldn't finish his thought.

We thought about getting a room again and he said he would feel bad if we had sex and he just took off after. He said he really wanted to but he'd rather wait and plan it out and be able to take our time and that emotionally it would be better as well (which was interesting coming from a guy who said he wants no strings sex). He kissed me goodnight and we each drove away.

That was 2 weeks ago. I haven't heard a thing from him since.

He told me he that night he was seeing someone else for a little while now after asking if I was, but said he wishes he hadn't gotten involved with her (she has issues) and she has kids and he's helping her out financally (I think he's renting from her). He's leaving the area soon and said she knows there is no future for them and have an "open" understanding.

I want to contact him but don't know what to do. Every time I've said to him "I thought about calling you the other night..." he always says "You should have!"

[Sami09]

I think you should call the guy and see how he is doing. He seen like a sweet guy because a lot of guys would go to a hotel room with a girl but this guy seens to care about you and wants to get to know you better. good luck i hope everything works out

I had a "real" date on 6/30 with a guy I had only been going out on lunch dates with. We went out for drinks then to a jacuzzi at a really nice hotel in the area. He put the moves on me and I ended up suggesting we get a room. He said it wasn't a good night to do so seeing as he had to get ready for a big presentation at work the next day. So we fooled around in the car a bit. When I kissed him I sensed something weird. I asked if he didn't like kissing and he said "It's a very intimate thing to me and certain people..." I said "Certain people what?" but he wouldn't finish his thought.

We thought about getting a room again and he said he would feel bad if we had sex and he just took off after. He said he really wanted to but he'd rather wait and plan it out and be able to take our time and that emotionally it would be better as well (which was interesting coming from the guy who said he wants no strings sex). He kissed me goodnight and we each drove away.

That was 2 weeks ago. I haven't heard a thing from him since.

He told me he that night he was seeing someone else for a little while now after asking if I was, but said he wishes he hadn't gotten involved with her (she has issues) and she has kids and he's helping her out financally (I think he's renting from her). He's leaving the area soon and said she knows there is no future for them and have an "open" understanding.

I want to contact him but don't know what to do. Every time I've said to him "I thought about calling you the other night..." he always says "You should have!"

[shh!]

I think you should stay away until he loses the girlfriend. And if he's renting from her, then maybe she is helping HIM out. Also, I wonder if the girlfriend is aware of the "open understanding" - I wouldn't bet on it, unless she will personally confirm it. Lastly, the reason he wouldn't get a room with you could be that his girlfriend was expecting him home. He sounds like a two-timing liar.

[artyemi]

I think you should stay away. He's with somebody. Sounds shady to me.

Maybe he thinks of leaving her, but don't we all at some point?

So, don't be the mat for him to step on. You're worth more than that.

[whaywardj]

This all has a familiar ring to it...