Need Advice

[Nooze]

hey guys i've been seeing this chick for the last couple of weeks... actually... i've been on 3 dates with her.

She is my ex-mate's ex-girlfriend. Nope, i didnt steal her from him. They broke up about a month and a half ago and when my ex-mate found out that i went out with her, he got mad...

Anyways, this thread isnt about my ex-mate it's about this girl. She's beautiful... she's friendly, and she's lovely... i like her... a lot. All the 3 dates we've been on werent very romantic at all, we met up and basically chat and did things together, we shared a lot of fun a laughters and got to know each other a little better. I have not hold her hands or kiss her, just hug

That's why i made this thread... we're not officially a couple yet but she'll be my first girlfriend. But i have no idea how to start holding her hands or kissing her i'm just worry that she's not ready yet or whatever. Her ex is depressed at the moment... trying to get over her (she dumped him) he's really depressed that she's worry if he find out that we're really together that he would harm himself... in other words kill himself, and she doenst want to be the reason for that and feel guilty for the rest of her life....u know what i mean?

I care about her and i only want to kiss her if she wants to... not becoz i want to. But i really want to! i realy want to hold her, hug her, kiss her, and let her know how i feel bout her. But the situation at the moment prevents me from doing that... i have no idea when she's actually ready.

The other nite we spent hours together in my bedroom, talking, laughing, listening to the music... at one moment she took a condom out of her hand bag and showed it to me... i didnt know how to react i dont want to sleep with her if i dont know how she really feel about me...



share ur thoughts please...

thanks for bothering to read my long post by the way

[whaywardj]

Think: Black Widow spider.

[Nooze]

Think: Black Widow spider.

what's that spose to mean?

[whaywardj]

Judging from your post, she sounds considerably more mature than you and will, probably, eat you alive if you let her. Not to say she's bad. Just be careful about investing too much of your feelings in her.

[Tone]

How old are the 2 of you? I'm going to guess the 15-17 area.

[Nooze]

i have just turned 19 and she's 17 almost 18... is anyone else going to respond to my thread?

[whaywardj]

Nooze -- However much she may signal an interest in sex by doing things like flashing a condom at you, the best thing I think you could do now is just stand back and wait. She's only just ended one relationship with a mutual acquaintance and both of them are still, probably, processing their feelings over what all that means to them. Your jumping in now to fulfill your desires will just complicate that process and avail you of nothing positive. You wouldn't be sure if she was just rebounding, trying to make her ex angry by seducing you, or what. I'd let all the 'residuals' of her former relationship with your mate clear up entirely before I made any romantic advances toward her.

[roxamillion]

I think you are too young to be "In love".