What should I do?

[slbzbaby]

Okay this might be a long story. (didn't know where I should post this)

In my group of friends there is me, my boyfriend, and my bestfriend (a guy). It used to be the three of us and my bestfriends girlfriend, but she dumped him for no reason about 5 months ago. She no longer wanted to hang out with me or my boyfriend and didn't give us a reason either and it hurt me a lot because we had been friends long before they started dating. Well on Christmas she called him up and even though she broke his heart he took her back. He brought her to come see me the day after Christmas (since I had gotten out of the hospital), and I wasn't mean to her and neither was my boyfriend, but I'm not sure I'm ready to hang out with her again. My bestfriend is like a brother to me and I couldn't stand to see him so heartbroken over her and for her to just not want to hang out with me anymore because I was such close friends with him. While they were going out before, she would get so jealous of me hanging out with him and thought we would do something with eachother. I don't trust her at all anymore and from things I have heard (like she never loved or liked him in the first place) I don't like the idea of them going back out. I promised my friend I would be nice to her, but I don't know how long I will be able to go without letting her know exactly how I feel. I think my friend could do so much better than her. He knows my feelings about her, but we are always hanging out with her. I think she is going to break his heart again, what should I do? Should I keep being nice to her for his sake?

[BuzzLiteBeer]

first, this is a "relationship" forum, so this probably does belong here.

2nd, i think this repressed anger or resentment will only make your dealings with your friend and her girlfriend very awkward. this isn't any btter than if you tell them and have them get pissed off at you. I think you need to get the truth straight with your friend's girlfriend. if she won't tell you or is a bitch about it, then you obviously can't trust her.

[sfalexi]

First, I would tell your friend what you think of her. It's very underhanded to let her know and not your friend. And then how would you feel if your good guy friend found out VIA his girlfriend what you thought? I would be upset that you didn't come to me first if we were such good friends.

Tell him you don't like what happened, and if he asks you not to say anything to her, DON'T. It's his relationship, it's his mind and body, and if he wants you to keep your thoughts to yourself, respect him and do that.

If he doesn't say anything, and it really eats you up, go ahead and tell her off. Therefore you wouldn't be in the wrong since you were never instructed not to tell her off and you went to your friend first.

Sort of a "chain of command" thing here. I know what it's like. My girlfriend HATES her brother's girlfriend. And with reason. I think she's a bitch too. But we both told her brother that, and he knows what we think, but asked us not to tell his girlfriend off. So we respect that. We can't say we didn't try to warn him.

Alexi

[IceQueen]

Since he already knows that you don't feel good about her, and she doesn't feel good about you, and STILL keeps bringing you two together, it is probably happening for one of these two reasons:
1) He is trying to push you together to get you to be friends;
2) It raises his self-esteem when two girls are "fighting" for him.

Based on your knowledge of his personality, which one is it? (Because my advice depends on it.)

[slbzbaby]

It would be the first one IceQueen because we aren't fighting over him we are fighting because she ditched me as a friend and broke his heart.

[slbzbaby]

well, it doesn't matter anymore cause the stupid b**** left him again. I hate her so much, I can't believe she would do it again.