How long?

[Gnome]

Im wondering how long it took all you guys to get somewhere in your relationship?

Im almost 4 months with my girlfriend and we have still yet to go past kissing and touching (not touching privates tho). I have talked to her about it and she doesnt want it to be planned, fair enuff, but she also has made all these rules about how it will happen, hence it has to be planned.

Anyway back to the original question, is anyone in the same boat?

[sfalexi]

Yes. Four months for me to get slightly physical with my girlfriend (slightly meaning over the clothes stimulation). And we progressed from there, however have hit a "barrier" at sex. We haven't had it, and it's bothering me, and everyone on this forum knows about it. I am actually going to talk to her again (and again and again) today.

BTW, we've been together for about a year come the end of this month.

Alexi

[DIESEL]

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[Innova]

Well with mine, it was about 4 months into the relationship...after that it was at least 2 times a day for the next year rofl. We loved it.

[squirrley]

How old are you? If she's not ready dont push it with her, trust me. It will only alienate her. It's ok to talk about it, sharing your intimate feelings, but she'll let you know when she's ready.
Patience my man is a virtue...

[Innova]

Originally posted by squirrley

Patience my man is a virtue...

Tis very true, those who have this in spades, are rewarded with great prosparity. Some would argue that this is fickled, but overall you'd find this to be true.

[sugarashes]

My boyfriend and I progressed pretty slowly but we knew that we were in our relationship for "the long haul". We were only fifteen when we started dating and I know that might get some criticism but i don't care. But we waited a year before we had sex for the first time. We would have started having it all of the time sfter that except for the fact that the condom broke and I got pregnant. So don't rush it if you're young because you don't want a baby. Thank god we are still together four years later. But take it slow if she wants to go slow or else she may resent you a little in the future. You are right about the planned thing though. It isn't right for her to tell you no to planning it but then for her to go and make rules about it. No rules! let it be spontaneous!