I Can't Come!!!!!!!! :((((((

[Apache]

First...if I were you I'd get the thought that you can't cum out of
your mind. You'll convince yourself you can't, and then you won't.

You should also stop jacking off as much, there could be a sensativity
thing happening like Arty said.

A blow job is basically you being masturbated by someone else, something
you might not enjoy. I for one can't cum unless I am moving in some
fashion, so I have been in the same situation as you have. Try thrusting yourself into her mouth a little. She might enjoy that too...

[Late_vamp]

To roxyfoxy. I still enjoyed sex with or without cumming , because i knew she was pleased , but after a while ( it took me about 4 months ) i was starting to feel kinda (how could i say this ... cant find any words) i could say , less *Hyped* about sex ...until i came . then it ALL went back to me being an animal in bed .

I have kind of the same thing , like your friend's BF had . i can go for hours and im still not gonna cum ( the time i had sex for the longest was for 5 hours straight , with tiny brakes of 5 mins between every 90 mins or so ). That was in the beginning of the realtionship between me and my ex , we were each others firsts , so the attraction was crazy. anyways , it was like that for about 4 months , the whole time i never jerked off , then one day i just got really selfish( well , she was done and i kept going , she dindt mind because i ALWAYS let her finish , and even if i wasnt done i would never complain.) so i just hit it till i came , of course i had no condom ( i CANNOT cum with a condom ,and head...but after all , i was the first she ever gave head to ). so after that , i prob came like 2 more times JUST from ****ing in the course of 15 months , thats an average of once per 5 months ...

BUT after that time , i STILL wouldnt cum for about 2 other months ( we started using condoms , what a piece of crap that damn thing is...believe me , i tried all those dumb sensi - nerv , like super thin ones and all of it ...it just SUCKS )

so one day i just asked her to be in some way ( a way that really turns you on ...kinda like a pose) and just stay there after i made her cum , i would jack off to her while im watching her and i would cum basically anywhere i wanted except on her face , mouth and inside of her pussy .

so basically i came 3 times from actual sex ...and LOTS of time from me making her cum and THEN i finish it off with a nice coat of glaze anywhere i felt like on her (almost)

[RoxyFoxy]

Dear, i'm still having quite a hard time believing that it takes you that long before you come. Not just you, but any guy for that matter. 5 hours does sound a bit far fetched, even 1 hour sounds like a long time. Do you mean actual penetration lasted you this long, or sex as a whole? My current boyfriend can't last more than 4 to 6 minutes of actual penetration. I find it hard to believe that the differance is that enormous from man to man. Perhaps it's just me, but I think that 4 minutes, all the way to 5 hours is a bit of a considerable gap.

[Aaron Blanc]

Dear, i'm still having quite a hard time believing that it takes you that long before you come. Not just you, but any guy for that matter. 5 hours does sound a bit far fetched, even 1 hour sounds like a long time. Do you mean actual penetration lasted you this long, or sex as a whole? My current boyfriend can't last more than 4 to 6 minutes of actual penetration. I find it hard to believe that the differance is that enormous from man to man. Perhaps it's just me, but I think that 4 minutes, all the way to 5 hours is a bit of a considerable gap.

Not at all RoxyFoxy. It's called "Inhibited Ejaculation" and it is usually a more advanced form of "Retarted Ejaculation". Men who expiriance this, simply can not ejaculate during sex. It is very possible that your friend's boyfriend might not be masturbating on a regular basis. You know what they say, "if you don't use it, you lose it". That's can't be more true when it comes to sex. You body need to be constantly reminded of how sex feels like. Even if you are over your head with everything else in life, I don't think "the feel of sex" is something you want to forget. Tell her to try telling her boyfriend that there is nothing to be ashamed about, and that everyone masturbates. He is doing wrong to both him and your friend by not masturbating.

I would recomend that she starts to masturbate him, then, move on to him masturbating with her present while teasing him and taunting him. If that doesn't seem to help much, tell them to try having sex more often. Most of the time, the best cure for "Inhibited Ejaculation" is simply frequent sex. There's only "so" much the body can take before it lets go, but it must be a "long" vacation, most likely during the summer. Tell them to take a month or two off, and for both of them to make an effort at it.

[theauskid]

I still have not come during sex (had sex about 15 odd times) and i find it hard to come when she goes down on me.. I usually have to finish off myself, then she takes it in her mouth..

[Ellynn]

I still have not come during sex (had sex about 15 odd times) and i find it hard to come when she goes down on me.. I usually have to finish off myself, then she takes it in her mouth..

Wow.....i can see not coming during oral..but guys who haven't come during sex....hmmmm... That has happened on occasion but eventually the guy did come.

[theauskid]

Wow.....i can see not coming during oral..but guys who haven't come during sex....hmmmm... That has happened on occasion but eventually the guy did come.

Yeah i can't quite explain it, other than the fact that we both kinda get tired and bored and we never had sex for longer than 4-5mins. Maybe if we tried for longer?

Then we just finish eachother off or i'll go down on her, make her come, then i'll finish myself off, and she'll swallow it.

Could also have something to do with the fact that i was a virgin before her, and i've been masturbating for a while now, so maybe i'm just used to that, and not the other way?

[Ellynn]

Yeah when you masturbate sometimes things aren't as sensitive as they would be if you held off masturbating for awhile.

You only go at it for 4-5 min and get bored? I've gone at it for over 30 min and after that I agree it does get tiring and sometimes boring....but maybe if you tried going at it longer or changing positions....it could happen. You have to give yourself at least 10 min....or try different things while having sex........

[Late_vamp]

wow some of you get bored really fast ...

to Roxyfoxy ; (quote) Dear, i'm still having quite a hard time believing that it takes you that long before you come. Not just you, but any guy for that matter. 5 hours does sound a bit far fetched, even 1 hour sounds like a long time. Do you mean actual penetration lasted you this long, or sex as a whole? My current boyfriend can't last more than 4 to 6 minutes of actual penetration. I find it hard to believe that the differance is that enormous from man to man. Perhaps it's just me, but I think that 4 minutes, all the way to 5 hours is a bit of a considerable gap.(unquote)

well we went from bj's to pussy eating , form the bed to the floor to standing to sitting....anyways i would say total time of actual penetration would be 4 hours NO JOKE. believe it or not but i CAN stand that long and i dont go slow at all . anyways , before i meet her i was a virgin (she was too ) soo i just think i got used to beating it (but i dintd do it often ... is like 3-4 times per week alot??? i know some guys that beat off at least 5 times per day ) while i was with her from day 1 to the end i never jerked off because i had her to have fun with .

btw i DID cum from sex but only 3 times because i started to put condoms (dint want to risk anything anymore) and condoms for me are very bad because i feel like 50 % less pleasure ...its like having the best car around and you just switch to some rusted old crap ... its just not the same .

note*** i dont have that "Inhibited Ejaculation" i used my sex drive ALOT and everyday almost . so i just think i got to de-sensibilised *** i ALSO was un-curcumcised and when i was 13 i became circomsized ( something happend ... ) and the sensibility was crazy , i took showers and i wasnt able to face the water because it used to hurt my dick(after circumsition) ... then i got used to it and i first tried to *beat it* when i was like 15 . guess thats it ... do any of you know a way to get my sensibility back ? i know thres not beating off for a long time but except for that ...i know it would take me extremely long and it would cause blue balls wich is bad for your health ( thats why its even medically recommended to jeck off at least twice per month just to clean the pipes ...if you dont it DOES get yellow and old * or so i heard*)

[GrkScorp]

well there vampy...

i dunno about medically recomended to clean out the pipes at least twice a month.. but i definatly have to schedual an appointment with ur doctor for that...lol

it's not like if u don't beat him enough.. it's gonna fall off.. or ur gonna die.. or he's gonna get bored and start changing colors on u... lol... it's just not happening..

i dunno.. every guy is different... and like... if u feel u NEED to pookie pookie twice a month.. nobody's stopping u... lol..

but just so u don't scare every other guy out there.. and be the reason they bring up the national male jerk-off average... if u don't jerk off.. the sperm doesn't build up!!!

sperm takes 72 hours to get produced and matured... it is stored until the sperm capacity is FULL... after that.. sperm will still get produced... but the (older) sperm will rise to the top, and make their way into the epiditimus.. where they will be broken down, and be reabsorbed back into the body, to it's basic components... it's like they get recycled... after all.. u don't want to be ejaculating old aged sperm that's been sitting there for weeks...

as old sperm gets reabsorbed... new sperm enters in to FILL it's place... when an ejaculation occurs... the sperm will make its way into the vas deferns.. where it will further mature, and have the fluids of the pre-ejeculatory fluids added to it... and then... through the process of both negative presure, and an array of muscular contractions... the "cum, jizz, cheap cieling paint" will be shot out of the shaft... and into or onto wherever... but long story short...

blue balls isn't when ur body is filling up with sperm... it's when the rate at which sperm is being produced.. is much faster than the rate which sperm is being reabsorbed...

yes.. u can just release the sperm... but what ur body will do on it's own is stop sperm production, until enough sperm has been reabsorbed... then.. it will continue with it's normal cycle... blue balls is no excuse for sex.. and shouldn't be used as evidence to accuse someone for lack of sex..

and yellow penis?? wow.. it's called a shower... or like at least change ur boxers once in a while.. ouch... u should really get that one checked out...

[Late_vamp]

dude seriously get you shit straight and learn how to READ ! what the heck is that about a yellow penis??? sperm does not get recycled by your body ...WTF is that ??? i NEVER even heard of that . if your gonna go posting crap about other ppl , at LEAST be smart enough to re-read their post properly

QUOTE ( thats why its even medically recommended to jeck off at least twice per month just to clean the pipes ...if you dont it DOES get yellow and old * or so i heard*) QUOTE

when did i ever talk about myself and when did i say your penis would turn yellow . i said recommended , here again just for you ...RECOMMENDED ...not I THINK or I FIND ... and sperm DOES change color in TIME no not purple , blue rainbow ...it turns YELLOWish type of , i just checked my old bio book(its kinda old i gotta admit that ...but still) !!!

and i never even used blue balls as something of lack of sex or a reason to HAVE sex ... i think you just read things and you dont even take time to think . next time do us all a favor and instead of typing all sorts of nonsense just read... ill make you look less like a fool. pendejo

[lilwing89]

stop jacking it and think really sexual thoughts while she is blowing you.

i want my girl to give me a bj but im too embarrassed to ask..shed say no anyways(shes a "good" girl.)

[lilwing89]

btw

i'd spooge if my girl just stuck her hands in my pants and touched my dick

[Aaron Blanc]

btw

i'd spooge if my girl just stuck her hands in my pants and touched my dick

It seems to differ from couple to couple. Some men are just very sensitive to touch, and can get great pleasure from oral sex. Others may not. Then again, there is the chance that your partner simply does not know how to preform a blowjob the way you like it. Perhaps they are too gentle, perhaps they are too rough, maybe it's too slow, maybe it's too fast, maybe there's not enough variation, and it seems like the same thing all the time, ect.

For whatever the reason may be, you should try to find subtle ways of telling her what you like when she is giving you oral sex. Few women take the initiative on their own to ask other friends or to even read up on how to give great blowjobs, but do not assume that you will be so fortunate. No partner can simply read the mind of the other, nor can they read the signals of the other in such a perfect manner as to understand exactly what you want. It is simply a matter of understanding that the two of you must have. Try to keep in mind that she will not take it personal if you tell her what you like, but you should not make it seem that everything she has done up to this point has been in vain. If you simply have no idea what you like from oral sex, then it would not hurt for her to use variety during oral sex, until you pick up a couple of things that push you over the edge, and tell her what they are.