the right thing to do?

[smilesalot]

my bf is moving to the united arab emirates to work for anything from 6 months to a year. When he told me i was a bit upset and told him that i cant do this long distance thing anymore. self preservation thing kicking in me thinks. i am not angry with him or anything. he has to take the opportunity. so last week we were a bit up in the air, but he is back from europe this week and he wants to have a proper talk to me about things.

in the meantime he has been very sweet telling me how much i mean to him. i dont want to get hurt anymore, but i am thinking that if itsmeant to be its meant to be when he gets back but at the same time i really want him to0. i am scared that dragging a relationship across several countries will not be good if we are to have a chance in the future?

but at the same time i think we could do it for a bit longer. i dont think my bf wants to give it all up. so i ve backed off until he comes back because i want him to relasie for himself what he really wants whether that be carrying on with the relationship. i dont want it to be a case of him "wanting something he cant have". i want his decision to be rational.

what do you think? am i doing the right thing? its pretty hard though.

[Ellynn]

Its all about what YOU think is right. Do you honestly think you can hold on that long? Or do you think its better to end things and then see how things are when he gets back and pick it up where you left off?

Its a question about whether YOU want to lose him or not. By breaking things off.....you both might move on and meet other people. Then when he comes back it might not be the same.....because he/ or you might be with someone else. ALot can happen in 6 months or a yr....

BUt if you really love him....and you WANT to be with him... THen I suggest holding on. Communicate over the phone....thru email....anything that you possibly can. It will be hard....but I know of people who have done it....and ended up being together in the long run.

If you honestly don't want to wait that long.....then maybe its best to end things now....instead of making empty promises to each other.