Originally Posted by
shh!
You know, I've started to reply to this post two previous times, but honestly, I'm not sure how helpful I can be to you. Really, you have a big mess on your hands. I suggest you do whatever is healthiest for your son, which probably doesn't include either of these men.
If you don't love your live-in guy anymore, I don't think you are obligated to him since he isn't even married to you. If you want to offer some sort of psudo-alimony for a pre-determined length of time to ease your guilty conscience, fine.
I think you should be careful about giving your kid the impression that relationships are disposable, which is a definite possibility when you jump from one man to the next without having time on your own. Why don't you try giving it a go without a man for a while?