Perhaps its Nothing

[outthere]

At the moment I have what I think is a steady relationship with a girl at work.
We love each other very much although we are not living together. We both have our own places still. We see each other as much as we can and I’d like to think we trust each other when we are not together. Naturally in most relationships there is usually a more dominant partner and I guess she is marginally….because of work she can separate that from our relationship. Because we have email at work I do love to just send her the odd message during the day and to start with she had no problem with this and the banter was ok…a few cheeky messages or just how are you stuff…..lately she has told me though that I do tend to send too many messages and I guess she does blow hot and cold at work depending on how the day goes……the thing is I can see her monitor from where I sit but she cant see mine and I do know that there is one guy that she is mates with who she emails all day who kinda looks like me and I know that he is her type like I am….should I stop bein sad and just accept that she is gonna have male mates as much as female ones and I ought to just ease up and not get paranoid, I cant exactly say anything as I will piss her off for lookin like I don’t trust her……..worse thing is I know he fancies her because before we were together he said it to me, guess I just need a second opinion!

[TAVS]

Dont dip your pen in the company ink.

[Junsui]

Good advice. It's usually tough to still work together after a breakup, especially if you weren't wanting it to end. I don't know if you're just being paranoid or if something is actually going on with this other guy. I guess it would depend on what's in the emails and if they're really flirty to each other in person. Not much you can do though.

[Tone]

I asked this girl out at my last job, and she said yes at first. Then when I called her a couple days later to set somethin up she said she was still having issues with her ex-b/f and she shouldn't get into anything right now, wouldn't be fair to me, etc etc.

So I was like you know, whatever, that's cool - no biggie. But then everyday she would send me e-mails at work. She worked a few rows down from me (worked at Insurance Company) and I never understood it... she would get all personal in her e-mails too and if I didn't e-mail her or reply in the morning she'd e-mail me or come to my desk and be like "Hey did you get my e-mail??" I'd have to just be like... "Uh yeah just got busy with some work.."

Silly girls.

And this has nothing to do with your problem, yeah... hi.

[Junsui]

Weird........................

[Asip4u]

Things aren't always what they appear to be. If it's not meant to be, it's not meant to be..Trust her and give her the space, while you go on about your own business.

[gHEXjt]

Dont dip your pen in the company ink.

But its so easy! Even in high school it was really easy!

[whaywardj]

Didn't you sign the memo about no personal emails on company time or equipment? I'd put the cabash on that little pastime right now. Not wise. And it's REALLY not wise OR nice to be scoping out other people's business over their shoulder while they're not watching.