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[3mK]

Alright. Hopefully I can get some answers/helpful suggestions here.

I used to work with this incredible girl, and during that time we had so much fun together. However, at that time I was so shy that I could never even consider asking her out, let alone asking to hang out as friends. Even though she even suggested things like that, I never did a follow up and thus nothing happen.

Feel free to call me an idiot after that first paragraph.

Next thing I know she is quitting work because hours became terrible and she had to make more money. This sucked. We had such a great time together, and now I was losing a valuable friend and I doubt she even knew how I felt.

Eight months go by and I always seem to think about her. I finally managed to tell my friends about her, and even though they don't know her they think I should speak to her. I think thats good advice, I just got to find the right time.

I guess the right time came on Saturday when I happened to bump into her at the bar. I don't think I need to explain the fact that I was completely bombed because it was a huge party night.

We met up, and I spoke to her and basically told her that I really missed her, and that she always made me feel so happy. Then this came out of my mouth : I told her that I loved her.

Now here I am a few days later and EVERYBODY at work knows (somehow) and I have to find a way to contact this girl and explain things. The good thing is that she is the type of person that would understand what I have to say because at one time we were so close. But now I just fear that I have made the situation a mess.

She has a friend who works at the store still, but I am a little afraid to approach her about the subject but that seems to be the only way I can reach her. I guess I am thinking that I laid down too much information too quickly after a long time of not being in contact, and I just want some opininions as to what I should do.

Here is what I am thinking. I am going to go to her friend, and try to get her to give me some way to contact the girl. I know speaking to her in person would be the best thing to do, but I don't know when that would happen and I need to speak to her A.S.A.P.

Do you think that if I asked her friend for the girls E-mail I could speak about this subject either through e-mail or MSN?

I have to come up with something real quick, and I thought I could get some ideas from you guys on the forum. Thanks in advance...!

[gHEXjt]

I don't even know what to tell you. I can't believe you told her that you love her! Did she realize that you were shit-faced when you were talking to her, because that can be your only excuse for why something like that would slip? And I wouldn't try to contact her via IM or email, you should just do it in person. Get her phone # from this friend, and give her a call. Apologize, do whatever comes to you in the moment. You probably scared her off, but who knows, maybe you didn't. You'll never know until you talk to her about it though. Hopefully someone here will have better advice to give you though.

[giulia]

I agree with you. You need to come out of your shell and approach her friend. You can't let your life pass you by just because you're shy?! It really isn't fair on you. Get her number or email from the friend and tell her the truth. If she is the person you have depicted her as then she will understand and things will get better not worse. Good Luck

[Tone]

Agree with the others, get her number, who talks over the internet??? That's weak.

[Vanilla Gilr]

Agree with the others, get her number, who talks over the internet??? That's weak.

besides...everybody tells everyone that they love them when they're wasted...ya know...dude..I love you man...pass it off as that....worth a shot!

[Rosebud]

odd I thought I posted to this already... oops my bad!!!

yeah I would get her number and talk to her directly and explain the situation. You won't know what will happen until you try and put forth an effort.

[carpflounder]

Agree with the others, get her number, who talks over the internet??? That's weak.

Seriously....unless your like 12 years old..cut out that msn iM bullshit...get her number and talk.

[3mK]

Yea, last night when I posted this I was afraid because I had THOUGHT that I probably screwed something up.
Turns out she came into my workplace today with the friend that I mentioned. If I had been there I would have been able to confront her and explain myself. Hell, I probably don't have to explain anything. She came in and if I had scared her off then I am damn sure she wouldn't have done that like 3 days after this event.

I got calls at home from my friend saying that she was there... ha ha. I take this as a good sign, now I just have to be there when she arrives so I can speak to her.

Thanks for your replies guys.