Does he like me?

[blue_moon2]

How do you know when a guy likes you? I'm at uni now and there are alot of guys just looking 4 a onenight stand...I'm trying to avoid those guys...but there are some genuinly nice guys and I want to know how to spot a guy that likes you from a guy who just wants a one night stand.
Some guys can be very good at disgusing it.

[Prodigal]

I think it all depends on the manner in which a guy portrays himself. You can tell if a guy is going to be one of those kinds of people. I think that guys wanting longer term things are guys that tend to be more methodical in their approach. But, then again.. I don't know. It's a lot about feeling. Following your intuition on these things usually helps a lot.

[shh!]

You don't have to worry so much about what a guy is after if you are clear about your own boundaries. If you refuse to sleep with the guy on the first date, then you won't be used as a one night stand.

[lilwing89]

guys are known for taking girls who never want anything to do with sex to girls who crave sex so much that they even buy a fake penis to pleasure themselves when their men arent around.

you might refuse to sleep with a guy on a first date but after a while you might start feeling like you wanna and before you know it you are smoking a cigarette staring at his buttcrack while he is pissing

[justme1977]

shh! is absolutely correct.

To avoid one night stand relationships simply dont sleep with them on the first night and make them wait a while...a couple of months of dating should help you discover the guys just out for a a knotch on their bed post and those who honestly like you the way you are.

I know it sounds old fashioned but if a guy is prepared to wait a little while to get into your pants he is normally the man who thinks more of you.

And it is true what everybody says....us men will try to get in your bed on the first night of meeting you.....its in our nature to try.......but if you let us most of us WILL respect you less.....

[Tone]

I can't wait to go back to school! I'm gonna be a good boy!

[bluesummer]

No way Tone, I know you're thinking about all those hot young college girls.

[Tone]

But I'll still be a good boy! ^_^

[bball_1523]

I don't know if anyone else notices or if anyone else is in my boat, but since I am shy and am willing to put sex on hold till whenever just for love, I think you should try looking for the shyer guys. Look for the ones that might look at you in the eyes a lot, rather than your body. Look for the ones that might be hesistant to say anything to you yet have a smirk on their face or keep looking at you as if they are curious.

That's basically the kind of guy I am, and am willing to explore the other aspects of relationships rather than getting girls into bed.

[Isamu]

The answer for your question is pretty simple: get to know them. Of course you can't know all of them by dating them, but dating or just going out as friend will generally give you a pretty good idea of what they are like. Also their friends is your best source of information about them. There is no procedure to tell if a guy is a jerk, just by looking at him, you have to get to know him. It will take you a while, but after some time, u will be able to spot the jerk from the nice guy.

[CircleC]

I think I've read into your post a little differently than some.

It sounds to me like you are looking for a way to be able to have sex with a guy on the first date, and also know for sure that it won't be just a one nighter.

Well that won't happen, so you need to follow the advice of most replies and simply refuse these guys sex and see which ones still want to be friendly and continue to develop a relationship with you.

And if thinking about sex with them becomes unbearable, then you will need to get over feeling bad about the potential of a one night stand and just do it. That might be the only way you know if sex is all they are after.

[blue_moon2]

No.. I'm not looking 4 one night stands. I want a long term relationship. I'm a virgin so I dont want to rush into sex...or be rushed into it by someone else.

[CircleC]

Ok, then just keep focusing on making friends and getting to know as many people as you can, that is the best way to give yourself a chance to find just the right guy.

Theres just no way I can tell you how to tell if I guy is truly interested in you for the long term. You'll know it in your heart when you can trust and love a guy enough to believe him if he tells you he wants a LTR with you.

[NeoSeminole]

wtf? The answer is simple. If you don't want to rush into sex, then don't have sex. You can tell if he genuinely likes you b/c he will wait. Guys who just want sex will probably break up with you after a few weeks of not getting any.

[Mish]

Hi blue_moon2

It's a "Catch-22". Why? Because, eventually a romantic relationship will lead to having sex, if you withhold and the guy really likes you, you may appear as cold or frigid. If you continue holding out long enough the guy who is genuinley interested in you may vanish without a trace. However, there maybe guys who are after a one night stand and are prepared to wait for it (For as long as it takes) and then dump you once they had it. So, at the end it all really comes down to the art of ancient skills, pciked up only with experience and time

I know some girls who are virgin, avoid sex until marriage. And that sometimes works provided they find the right person (Similar culture, rationale etc...) However, I personally find that to be a Catch-22 as well. Because what if the person you end up marrying is terrible at it? You are forced to stay with that person when part of you will never be satisfyed.

Anyways, Just my 2 cents in the hat