should i just go for it???

[Eskate85]

Okay, heres my dilemna. Ive been seeing this girl for a while (were both in college, and her dorm is about 500 feet away from mine) and there was an attraction from the beginning. Her roommate, along with her other floormates were always around us, so it made it hard to have a good conversation and get things going. We went on a few dates and we both ended up liking eachother.
I should say that I had recently gotten over a year and a half relationship, and was single from the start of college, and still am. But i think things might change. It was hard for me to fully like her in a girlfriend way because we didnt have all the chemistry that it took quite yet, but the past couple times we hung out we got alot closer in a physical and emotional way. I feel comfortable enough to ask her out for sure. But im still not sure because i actually like being single and not having to worry about being with other girls, and partying (she does not drink, but she knows that i do and has no problem with it). Besides me liking being single, I still have some feelings for my ex that are buried very deep, and i plan on seeing her sometime soon, just to hang out as friends.
I dont want to hurt the girl im seeing right now, she is a wonderful person, and i think we have some great chemistry. And advice??

[independent]

I dont know what to say... except just take it slow. It seems like things are going very well right now. I assume the fact that you posted this means you are having some inner turmoil about making changes - either to move forward with this girl in your life, or to tone it down to just friendship. Any idea why you feel the urge to "do something" other than just go with the flow?

[mhussain]

the fact that you know the distance between your dorms is kind of scary :S

->you dont feel the same with her is because you just got out from a relationship.
->you like being single because you havent been one in one and a half years.
->you still have feelings for your ex because you loved her.

now all that is in the past. does the girl like you in a bf kind of way?

dont think for the future mate, just let it come. take each day as it happens. you have a great friendship with her. dont spoil it by thinking where it should or shouldnt go. just roll with it.

best of luck

Hussain

[Tone]

You have to be the one who decides what you want for yourself.

[CircleC]

Hey man, is the new girl pushing you at all to make a commitment? Do you really need to make a decision now? Hopefully, you can play it cool until you see your ex. Then, you will have a better idea of what to do. My advice: don't make any promises to the new girl. You said you don't want to hurt her. So, make sure that anything you tell her is absolutely true. Don't get caught up telling her something you think she wants to hear. That's how she'll get hurt.

[Rosebud]

I think it's a good idea to stay single until you fully figure out what you want. If you enjoy spending time with this girl you should keep hanging out with her but also figure out if you want a relationship or a not with her. If not you should probably tell her your just wanting to have fun instead of being committed. As you mentioned you don't want to hurt her and so you don't want to lead to her on either.