It sounds like you and me are very much alike in some respects Indi. My GF was always going out and returning home late. Even if I wanted (or did) say something about it, her reply would be its her life, she can live it how she wants. I dont have a problem with her saying that, but I would have prefered if she included me in her life. She would get up me when I talked to "her" friends even when its them calling me. There were so many double standards which she had, and nothing I did was ever right. One day I'd get in trouble for calling, the next day it would be because I didn't call.
I dropped everything for her, and eventually realised I was being used when it was convenient for her. Not my idea of a shared relationship. Even now I broke up with her she still cant see how much I love her, and repeats the same arguements, even though I have explained that her reasons are unjustified and not true.
At time I would phone her and ask if she would like to bring her daughter to my place and stay the night or just for tea. She would say no. The next time she'd say I never wanted to do anything with her when she had her daughter.
I would ask her to do something for a day/hour/whatever. She'd say I cant I have my daughter. I'd say thats not a problem, but she'd say shes sick. Then the next day I'd be accused of not wanting to do anything with her when she had her daughter.
Sorry I have a lot of pent up frustration caused by her misunderstanding me or not believing what I say.
It happens.
Mick
*MaJiK*
There are not many things I fear in life, but disappointing you is my greatest.
I love you even with your flaws... I love you because of your flaws.