Confused

[camaro6]

Hey all!

Im not sure which forum to post this in..

I'm 21 and i've been going out with my gf (19) for 3 years. We go to different colleges which are 25 minutes apart. It seems lately that she hasn't had alot of time to spend with me. She joined a co-ed faternity at her college and is hanging out with them every day going to parties and such. I usually i got to see her 4-5 days a week, now its down to 1. Our phone conversations at night are down to less than 10 minutes when they used close to an hour. I trust her and all, but when i ask her about what they did that day in her faternity, she says "its none of my business", "nothing", or "its a part of her life that i'm not apart of". She spends more time with these people she's known for 2 months than her own boyfriend and she doesn't let them know she has a boyfriend. She says that over the summer, she'll be down at the beach staying at one of their beach houses every day.

Its just starting to get to me that shes spending so much time with other guys. She also said that everyone in the faternity "hooks up" with eachother. Its really starting to get to me. I really have no idea what to do. 95% of her friend are guys. She tells me that they constantly hit on her and she knows im not comfortable with that but she'll do nothign about it. I know shes not cheating or anything like that, but it just bothers me. I don't want to break up with her because we both love eachother, but its like shes showing me no respect.

Anyone have any advice on what i should do? I don't want to be controling, but i feel that she should be spending more time with me, and let me know whats going on in her life.

Thanks in advance
-Brian

[MVPlaya]

Buddy,

She's spending less time with you, she has much shorter conversations with you, she is shutting you off from her social life, her interest is VERY LOW. Here's what you can do, be a challenge. The basic thing is you're in love with her, she's not in love with you and is taking you for granted. Show her that your love is not something you can just take for granted and be a challenge. Go out, show her you have your own social life. If things split up, let em split up, this is not a mutual relationship. If she realizes she's missing out, good, but I think its over buddy, time to move on.

[Innova]

I agree...thats your only way of really knowing man. Clinging to her will just make it worse.

[squirrley]

From a females point, sorry, she has more interests with the fraternity and whose in it. She's playing your ass now. Telling you these guys hit on her and she's not doing anything about it, if she were in love with you, she would do something about it.

I'd tell her ya want out, and that you need someone in your life whose a full time partner not someone whose only available when she is. I'd call it quits and do your own thing. It'll make her realize what she lost, and if she comes back you know it was meant to be. Life is too short buddy, dont play games.

[ColdSilence]

yeah, i agree with you guys,
she already showed you that she wants to be in her way.
She founds the thing that it's more interested.
You both have known each other for 3 years so i think she should know somthing about you, to know that you're her soulmate but why? why does he have to do this kind of thing - to separate you from her way - ?
Take time to think about it carefuly.

[camaro6]

thanks you guys

[IceQueen]

Ok, here's what you do.
You cut the number of attempts to contact her, and STOP trying to get in touch with her altogether.

See what she does.

[IceQueen]

Ok, here's what you do.
You cut the number of attempts to contact her, and STOP trying to get in touch with her altogether.

When/if she offers to go out, say you're busy and have a legitimate(!) excuse ready.

See what she does.