I've been dating this girl for about 3 months now and in that time I've fallen for her like a sack of bricks. However its always been complicated. Her ex/ best friend, and also a very close friend of mine, made it clear from the start that if he ever found out that we were going out, that he could no longer be our friend.
At first she was willing to risk this, and we were happy together. However about a month ago she moved out of her old flat (which was very close to mine), and into another place that was a long way out of town. This is were I think I messed things up.
You see, when we first started going out, our friend was being very controlling, constantly hanging around her, turning up at her place unannounced and being very jealous about anything she did which didn't involve him. She didn't like this at all, and I took from this, that I should give her some space and not crowd her too much. Obviously thats a moronic thing to think since we were in love.
At first my misunderstanding of her feelings didn't really matter, because we basically spent all the time together. But when she moved to her new place that was no longer the case. I didn't get in contact with her a lot, only texting her occasionally and virtually never calling her. At first it wasn't too bad, but then about 3 weeks ago we all got really caught up with work and were virtually completely out of touch for that time.
Then last weekend when we met up for the first time since, she said that she couldn't deal with the worry about our friend finding out about us and all the other problems, in our lives, and that we should go our seperate ways.
I saw through this excuse pretty quickly. Her ex/friend has always been an issue, and so have a number of problems, but while we were together we were always able to deal with it, without too much trouble. I'm worried that by not keeping in touch with her, I let her feelings for me slide, while her friend has been constantly visiting her. I think that she no longer values our relationship as much as she values her friendship with the ex.
What I'm really mad about is how little fight I put up. I love this girl so much, and now I really want to try and change her mind. I'm meeting up with her tomorrow. Do you think I should? Any advice would be most welcome