Have you ever had a man like this??

[soul_on_fire]

It's a song... but it is exactly like a situation I've been involved with.
I don't know what to do. He's scared that I'm out to hurt him, and all I want to do is show him that I really care, and want to just wipe those hurtful memories away. I just don't know what to do.

I've tried so hard my dear to show
That you're my every dream
Yet you're afraid each thing I do
Is just some evil scheme

A memory from your lonesome past
Keeps us so far apart
Why can't I free your doubtful mind
And melt your cold cold heart

Another love before my time
Made your heart sad an' blue
And so my heart is paying now
For things I didn't do

In anger unkind words are said
That make the teardrops start
Why can't I free your doubtful mind
And melt your cold cold heart

There was a time when I believed
That you belonged to me
But now I know your heart is shackled
To a memory

The more I learn to care for you
The more we drift apart
Why can't I free your doubtful mind
And melt your cold cold heart

[misombra]

we've all had a man like that.

[chelsee]

who sings that song? I would like to hear it.

and yeah I know a man exactly like that.

[soul_on_fire]

It's Norah Jones. Cold, Cold, Heart.

What can be done? Just wait until it's over? That could take years...

[misombra]

norah jones.

[chelsee]

somehow you have to get him to trust you, but it probably isn't going to be easy. you will probably be the one putting all the effort into the relationship.

[jaye]

It's a song... but it is exactly like a situation I've been involved with.
I don't know what to do. He's scared that I'm out to hurt him, and all I want to do is show him that I really care, and want to just wipe those hurtful memories away. I just don't know what to do.

I've tried so hard my dear to show
That you're my every dream
Yet you're afraid each thing I do
Is just some evil scheme

A memory from your lonesome past
Keeps us so far apart
Why can't I free your doubtful mind
And melt your cold cold heart

Another love before my time
Made your heart sad an' blue
And so my heart is paying now
For things I didn't do

In anger unkind words are said
That make the teardrops start
Why can't I free your doubtful mind
And melt your cold cold heart

There was a time when I believed
That you belonged to me
But now I know your heart is shackled
To a memory

The more I learn to care for you
The more we drift apart
Why can't I free your doubtful mind
And melt your cold cold heart

let me guess.......
Mr. Bush ?
or
harrison ford
or
ozzie osborne

[mini696]

and I have had a girl like that

[soul_on_fire]

What can be done?

[Late_vamp]

hey , im kinda like that , i dont even like my ex anymore , even less love . but with my current ex , it seems that i cant trust her because i got betrayed by the last broad , not cheated , just betrayed .

[Rosebud]

Yes I think there's a lot of people out there. The only thing you can do is be yourself. I would normally say prove your trustworthiness, but sometimes this doesn't work depending on the severity of the pain the person went through. You ahve to remember you can't change anyone and you shoudl try to do so, the only thing you can do is be yourself and time will show him that you do care and you wouldn't hurt him.

[mini696]

We all have baggage of some kind. Its a matter of trying to lose it at the check-in.

[gHEXjt]

Yes I think there's a lot of people out there. The only thing you can do is be yourself. I would normally say prove your trustworthiness, but sometimes this doesn't work depending on the severity of the pain the person went through. You ahve to remember you can't change anyone and you shoudl try to do so, the only thing you can do is be yourself and time will show him that you do care and you wouldn't hurt him.

This is the best advice you'll get.

[soul_on_fire]

not trying to change him, i have to be so careful with him. he thinks everything i do is trying to hurt him. he's always analyzing everything i say and do. i relly feel so bad for him

[Junsui]

Yep, I know how that is. I dated someone like that and I have been like that. You can't do anything. You can be yourself like Rosebud said, but it will begin to feel like you are having to hide some parts of yourself so that he doesn't get upset. This isn't something you can change about him, he has to do it himself and of course I will say therapy helps if he is unable to move past this on his own. He will either begin to trust you or cause the relationship to end.