How do I get over her sexual past?

[misombra]

ah don't worry tone. he's just mad cause we're right.

[Tone]

I figured you and Hayward were ones who probably told him what he didn't want to hear.

And okay.. but if this guy gives you trouble - you let me know okay??

[Only-virgins]

If a man was doing all you say she's done, it'd be something to brag about. **** you and the double-standard you're trying to impose on her. Particularly since she had the forthrightness to even tell you about any of it. You're turning her trust in you against her. So, **** you twice.

This kind of feed back is why if I was in his place I would just reject her and not tell anyone why. Why bother with louzy feed back like yours Whayward? yes its double standard..and no one still cares. I do what I feel like ..this should be the one rule of all. I do say though that asking him if he wants to be a hypocrite may lead to him thinking about the fact that he has a past too rather then telling him "**** you". Don you think?

What's done is done,

Thats stupid as all hell. Can I use that excuse when I kill someone?. Jail for you!...but..but..whats done is done!

You should not have to be worried about past sexual encounters on her part. At that age, most people have had more than a few sexual partners, and how they had them is not always a good reflection of the way they are now. It doesn't really matter about the fact that she's had sex with other guys, or how many, as long as you love each other and are comfortable with YOUR sex life.

If I had a stamp that said crap I would place it on this paragraph.

I think that my past is a fraction of hers. I'm afraid to know how many men she's been with. I said that I can confirm seven. I know there are many others.

If it bothers you then either you stop pretending and quit or forget if possible. Its all up to you...Its obvious that your staying with her already so just stop giving yourself a headache over. Not everyone is as strong as OV to tell a girl to get lost.

[whaywardj]

No. And you're not one who has much room to criticize anyone on such points. So you can shove it, too.

[whaywardj]

Don't you just love it when people start getting all tense and crotchity as the Holidays approach? Makes shaving their beards so much easier.

[Only-virgins]

No. And you're not one who has much room to criticize anyone on such points. So you can shove it, too.

Who am I criticizing? Don't confuse it with sharing an opinion.

[whaywardj]

Okay. I'll bite. Once. I won't confuse the two if you won't use the pretense of sharing opinions to lob off veiled criticisms. Now go concentrate on the originating poster's topic and express your opinions on that rather than on the replies to it, if you would, please.

[Only-virgins]

Now go concentrate on the originating poster's topic and express your opinions on that rather than on the replies to it, if you would, please.

The reason I do that is because this should be a site were people come for FACTUAL advise. To bad much of it isnt.

[whaywardj]

If it's facts you're after, why share opinions? Get a grip on what you're saying. You're being incoherent.

[Vanilla Gilr]

Advice...the word is advice.

Advise is a verb..it's what you do.

You advise people by offering them advice.

[whaywardj]

Hey, VG! Back in the routine after your break?

[Vanilla Gilr]

Sort-of...like I said...evening and weekends...I'll be here.

Miss being here during the day...but rules are rules...and I'm a single mom...won't risk my job just to check up on ya'll! Much as I luv you...you're just not worth it!...lol...

[whaywardj]

I didn't mean THIS routine, and I'll be the first to admit I'm not worth a damn to any good woman. I meant to your day-to-day routine. What's goin' on? How's the kid? Your love-life? Do I yet have any chance with you at all? All that.

[Vanilla Gilr]

Love life???..lol...I've told you privately about my love life...no changes there...not till I decide I deserve more.

Kid's fine...straight A's...being sought after by Moore College of Art...child amazes me more and more each day.

And sweetie....you just live too far away...but we'll always have 'lifetime'...lol

[whaywardj]

But back to Achtung: You "get over" her sexual past, friend, by not letting it be important to you. The arrogance at which Misombra and I were having such an hilarious time poking barbs is that you presume HER past is something YOU have to get over. What cheek! It's something SHE has to deal with, and is trying to. With YOU. Instead of having doubts about her over any of it, I'd be as supportive and as understanding of her as I possibly could, and take joy in the fact she felt okay enough with me to expose herself to my judgment in such a manner. You're being hurtful even to be worrying about it. It's not as if she can't sense what you're chewing on, you know. And, considering your own history, you're being ridiculous. She has just as much if not more cause to be as dubious of you as you seem to be of her. And, since you don't trust her, why don't you do the right thing and let her go be with someone who can? Or, at least, has a greater capacity to forgive than you seem to have.