jokeing about sex, question for the ladies

[hound1092]

here is my question, me and my gf have been going out for about a month and a half and we talk every day and some times she jokes about sex and around the topic of sex and teases me..... she realy likes teasing me. i know for a fact that she is still a virgin. could some one tell me what that means if we joke around allot on the topic of sex, if she wants something to happen or if she is just jokeing or what??? Also how long shoul i wait befor makeing any type of move for any sexual activity (sence she never makes any of the moves i haft to make them all)

[whaywardj]

What planet are you from?

[Jeblina]

I know somebody else would say this....but DUDE, if you can't feel comfortable sitting down and talking to her about sex (what she wants, when, how, etc etc)...then you definately don't need to even be thinking about HAVING sex. Slow down....take a step back....take a deep breath....and enjoy the relationship for what it is right now

[Tone]

He's 14-16.

[shh!]

Obviously. Hound - joking around about sex is the way of the world. People will do it beginning around your age, and it will continue throughout adulthood. Because she is joking about it doesn't necessarily mean she is ready for sex - she is just testing the waters. I agree with Rosebud - you shouldn't be thinking about sex AT LEAST until you are comfortable discussing it. When that time comes, be sure to protect both you and your partner by wearing a condom in addition to a more reliable form of birth control.

[independent]

Do you love her? If so, wait (on making movies or pressuring her in any way) - for her sake. Show her the respect she deserves.

She's probably joking about it because she is both curious and immature (not meant to be demeaning - just fact).

My son is 14 now. I was only 17 when I married, barely 18 when he was born. He has been with me through some of the toughest times as I "recovered" from that phase of my life. I told him very plainly:

I was only 3 years older than you are now when I got pregnant with you. I wouldnt go back and change a thing... but you know that my life has not been easy. I missed college. I missed graduating from high school even. I missed "partying" or having any kind of teen life. By the time I was old enough to get into a bar or buy beer... I was busy potty training and working two jobs.

(and I showed him my stretch marks hehehe)

All that to say... if you really love a girl, wait. If you dont really love her enough to care what her life turns out like, you have no business messing with her anyway.

And like Shhh! said - if and when the time comes with this girl... use double protection. Out of respect for HER.

[Rosebud]

I agree with Rosebud - you shouldn't be thinking about sex AT LEAST until you are comfortable discussing it. .

LOL, I didn't know I said something shh....LOL Were you thinking of me????

[shh!]

Hahaha - that was Jeblina! Damn, you guys remind me of one another!!

[Rosebud]

LOL, I new that's who you were referring to, it just made me laugh!!!! LOL