How best to break up with someone?

[lonely35]

This sounds a bit stupid, but I've been seeing this girl for only a couple of weeks and it's all moving too fast for me. She texts me all the time checking what I'm doing, wants to see me everyday, keeps telling me how she's falling for me and wanting me to meet her family etc.. I just don't want to be in that kind of relationship at the moment.

I would give things more of a chance, as there are lots of things I really like about her, but I don't think she's someone I want to be with forever and it seems like she is getting so serious. I feel like I'd hurt her more if I let things carry on too long before ending it.

Doesn't hurt my pride too much to say I've always been the one to get dumped before and never dumped anyone.. but I've always been left feeling confused and unsure if it's really over, left with loads of unanswered questions and self doubt etc etc... How can I make sure she gets the message but not hurt her too much?

[Ellynn]

Well its understandable what shes doing.... She really must like you....but if its to the point where its too much too fast....then you need to talk to her about it. Don't just dump her and leave her hanging as to why you did....etc.

Do you think that if she backed off a bit things could possibly work out for you both? I say, try to talk to her. Tell her that things are moving way too fast for you right now and you would just like to take things slow.... See what she says.... If she likes you she will respect your wishes.

If she however keeps it up or acts all defensive.....then end it. At least let her know why you ended it so she knows why....

Its best to be blunt.....and the sooner its done the better.....

Good Luck.

[carpflounder]

short and sweet

[Chreeeeeestoh]

leave a note on their car saying you've joined a monastery to begin a life of celebacy. Make sure to tell them they prompted this decision.

Then start dating their best friend

[Ujio]

i agree with the first reply, talk to her about it and let her not ur not comfortable with how fast its going, shell understand, ull break her heart if u just dump her because shes in love with you, talk things through, good luck

[Asip4u]

Just tell her that things are going too fast for you and see what happens. If she starts to listen, give her a chance, if not, break up. It's not rocket science.

[Jenrick285]

In person...
"It's me, not you"
.... well girls seem always use it, why can't we?

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[gHEXjt]

Didn't anyone realize that posted in this today, that this topic is 2 months old?