Overstepping My Bounds?

[mostly blushing]

Don't get me wrong, I wasn't saying it was unlikely. I just meant that you should think about this carefully. There are many reasons (as pointed out by Alexi) why you might not go after her.

But if you think there is a chance then by all means, keep her in mind. But you are only 20 (as am I) and you need to have fun. There is plenty of time to have fun. At least date other girls whilst you wait patiently (if that's what you really want to do).

Hypotetically speaking, if I noticed my best guy mate hanging around waiting for the slightest opportunity to be with me, it would be a huge turn off. I'd be much more interested if he was having fun with other people.

[sfalexi]

At least date other girls whilst you wait patiently (if that's what you really want to do).

Yeah. I'm in this position now with this one girl I've been dating for a while. So, Ricky, you and me BOTH have to go out and enjoy life while waiting for our respective girls to decide whether they truly want us or not.

Alexi

[Ricky]

I appreciate the comments. I do spend a lot of time with her, but I don't think I come off as consantly taking advantage of every opportunity to be with her. I hang out with other friends, too. Actually, I'd say she comes and knocks on my door more than I do hers.

As for going out and looking for other women, I haven't been really actively looking to begin with (and she knows that, too). I guess there's no better time to start. Still, if she saw me flirting with other women, wouldn't that make her think I was not interested in her? (just a thought)

[mostly blushing]

Originally posted by Ricky
Still, if she saw me flirting with other women, wouldn't that make her think I was not interested in her? (just a thought)

Ricky, this is definitely not going to be the case. Unless you become serious about someone else, I'm sure she will feel jealous but not that you are disinterested.

Does that make sense?

[Ricky]

Ricky, this is definitely not going to be the case. Unless you become serious about someone else, I'm sure she will feel jealous but not that you are disinterested.

Does that make sense?

I suppose so. I guess it would depend on the person.

Anyway, something happened and I've come to a decision that I'm going to tell her my feelings.

She came into my room earlier this evening and told me that she found out that somebody on the hall likes her, and of course I thought she meant me, so I couldn't stop grinning. Actually, it was another guy, a friend of both her's and mine. She apparently wasn't really upset with him (I'm not suprised actually, she's a very nice person). She did tell me that it was "wierd" when both him and her boyfriend were in the room with her at the same time. Still, she's not flipping out or anything, that's not her style (she told me she could never hate anybody).

Well, since this guy went ahead and told her, I might as well too. I almost did tonight. When she came into my room later on after that and asked to borrow my roomate's remote control, I almost talked about it with her right then and there (my heart was jumping), but there was not enough time. Eventually, though, I will. I figure she'll accept it and we'll still be friends, and at least I'll be able to get this off my chest. And perhaps if I'm lucky, she might consider me in the future. I'll let you all know how it goes.

[mostly blushing]

Ok good luck Ricky!

[Ricky]

Ok good luck Ricky!

Thanks. I appreciate the good wishes. Hopefully I will have a good opportunity to tell her tonight.