Why is she lieing to me?

[fear_21]

I caught my gf a few times lieing to me..i couldn't prove it but i know she does. For example, i call her, her phone rings...nothing. Then i call her again and she picks up the phone and tells me it did not rang the first time i called her, jeah...gimme a break. Then a nother time i asked her to meet..she sed thats not posible, they go to visit some friends with their family. Then i went on msn later, her sister was there...so i asked her whats going on? She had no idea bout any visits. Then i told my gf that, and she sed, jeah, thats because noone told her nothing, but they didnt go to visit them either...so?
I caught her a few times on msn at late hour, i asked her, so who are u talking to, she says noone. Hey, im not stupid...then she tells me she waited for me, or was looking if im online. I know she has 5 guys on her contact list. But no problem, im not an as*olle telling her she cant talk to them. And when i tell her she shouldnt lie to me, she tels me not to call her a liar cause that makes her sad, and what not.I told her a few times...would you like to stop the relationship? she was schocked, no way...i dont know what to do.

[Junsui]

The thing about seeing her family or something sounds weird, but I know sometimes my family will say they called me on my phone and it never rang for me.

[Tone]

You can start by relaxing Mr. Detective 2005. She's your g/f you have to give her a little trust, yea? And who cares if she has other guys on her MSN? They're not her b/f, you are. Do you expect her to never talk to any guys other than you and her relatives FOREVER?

Just lighten up a bit. It's easy to get paranoid in a relationship, especially when you are young. How old is she? How old are you?

[fear_21]

i trust her, but it pisses me off when i call her and then she tells me the phone didnt rang...cmon. But ok, i didnt say anything...thats not the only thing i worry about. i had 1000 of such weird storys told by her, one day i dump her if that continous, i cant stand being fooled.

[fear_21]

i think im gettn paranoid.....i just dont want to get fooled one more time, because i trusted unlimited. Is that ok, to trust blindly?

[TAVS]

Some people are chronic liars. My Ex was that way and I just had to learn to deal with it.

[mini696]

How long have you been going out?

You sound like a controlling person, she doesn't have to tell you her every move.

[fear_21]

we are dating 6 months now. im not controling, she can do whatever the hell she wants, but dont lie to me girls cause it drives me mad. We are 40km distance, not far but far enough for me, begging for my parents car to drive to her. She never even was here. So at least i can expect not lieing to me when i do all the work, damit.

[Rosebud]

Ok I think your jumping the gun, I think your psyching yourself out already. Sometimes, the phone does not ring don't jump to conclusions because of that. Mine does the same thing a lot as do a lot of other people I know. There could be very reasonable explanations for all the things you have said. I think your trying to find a reason to not be with her, or your just over paranoid about everything and very controlling. Sorry to be so blunt but that's MO.

[fear_21]

Someone better tell me how should i respond on such things. How would you respond "einstein's"?

[Vanilla Gilr]

First off, you don't start insulting the people that YOU are asking for advice. Is this how you talk to her? Is this how you react when it appears she's lied to you? Do you give her a chance to explain or do you get your panties in a bunch as you've done here?

When you ask for advice...or an explanation...you need to listen for the answer. People here are being honest to you...and you get mad. IF she is lying to you...maybe it's because she's afraid to tell you the truth. Or...and just as likely...she's telling you the truth....and you've been hurt before...and just so afraid of trusting again....that you're not giving her a chance.

My ex-husband is a lier. He does it so much that he doesn't even realize it. He lies to everyone...not just me. I've no patience with it.

Do you see her lying to others. Saying things you know----not think---are not true? That would be a good indication about whether she's lying to you or not.

And...(almost done...I swear...lol) just because she's on msn late at night...doesn't mean she's chatting....I leave mine on all the time...and I hardly ever IM anyone....she could well have it on just in case you IM her.

Either way...you've only got 6 months into this. Personally...I'd give it a bit more time...work on communication...both of you...if you truly feel something special for this girl...give it a fair chance.

[mini696]

She feels like she has to hide some things from you because you have already shown you get upset at some things she does. Even if you say you let her do whatever she wants, I bet you dont act that way, probably get moody, grumpy, etc.

[fear_21]

i will never trust a woman 100% anymore...never. Did it a few times, everytime i got fooled..nop, enough.

[fear_21]

Vanilla girl, dont talk to me like your my mother, ok? You are on this forum because you have problems to, or are you here just for fun?

[Vanilla Gilr]

Vanilla girl, dont talk to me like your my mother, ok? You are on this forum because you have problems to, or are you here just for fun?

If you don't want me to talk to you like I'm your mother...then don't sound like a snotty nose baby....

HOWEVER...I wasn't trying to sound like your mom...I took time to TRY to help your ungrateful ass...won't make that mistake again. Have a fun life never trusting anyone.

Why do you ask for advice? Unless it's exactly what you want to hear...you turn nasty.

I feel sorry for you.