I think guys are confusing too...

[pisce_s]

Hey guys, i wrote in this a while ago asking whether i should ask this guy out at work - and the other day i finally did it!! But because i was so so so nervous, i didn't go into much detail and it was just like "do u wanna go for a drink some time?" and we didn't organise a day to get together which was kinda silly. Anyway, he said yes at that time and was like "well its not everyday that a girl makes the first move" - anyway i was just ecstatic that he said yes.

Anyway a couple of days past and i worked with him and i was gonna ask him if he was free the next night - except we were really busy so i didn't get any time with him alone. I'm really crazy about him and didn't wanna wait til next time we work together so that night i smsed him to ask him if he's free the next night. and i get this reply sayin he's out of town (coz he's from some country town) but he'll be goin to this work party on sat night. this is obviously not what i was hoping for, i wanna go out with him alone, but did he misunderstand me when i asked him out or has he changed his mind? what should i do?

[Rosebud]

Did he reply to you or did he have an automatic reply set on his email?

Why would you think he misunderstood you? and why would you think he changed his mind? He was probably just busy and figrued you guys could talk about next time yous aw each other.

[pisce_s]

Wow thats nice advice - something i wanna hear

Well he replied to my txt msg when i asked him if he wanted to get together the next night and he replied saying he's out of town but he'll be going to the work party which is on the night after.

Its just that i wanted him to say something like he's free whatever night so we can get together then - not invite me to a party where there's gonna be heaps of ppl and i won't really get to speak to him and get to know him.

[Rosebud]

Well then you go to the party and at the party you ask him if afterwards he would like to go out for drinks (more drinks..whatever). Or if not then ask him about the next night ya know whenever your covnienant. Don't worry and don't look to much into it.. from him saying "it's good to have a girl make the move" you got his attention....

[shh!]

Ugh! Don't be such a girl! He is offerring you an opportunity to get together. Either take it or leave it - if you don't like what he suggested, make a counter-offer. Men are not so complicated if you just tell them what you want.

[Bluevetteracer]

Ugh! Don't be such a girl! He is offerring you an opportunity to get together. Either take it or leave it - if you don't like what he suggested, make a counter-offer. Men are not so complicated if you just tell them what you want.

Can we get an AMEN!

[Junsui]

Amen!!!!!!

[Late_vamp]

happy that things are working out for you ..

on a side note , i thought this was a kinda sister thread to the other one "women are so confusing"

ps : he wasnt confusing , its your own thoughts that confused you .

[Ratfish256]

PPS. As a guy, I love being told by a girl what she wants to do.

[Junket]

Datin' in the workplace eh?

Oi...

[pisce_s]

its just a part time job!!

[misombra]

are you a pisces?

[xxwildchildxx]

My guess is that he probably just misunderstood your request. I think he believes that you just want to "go out for a drink," or a friendly time at the bar, NOT the romantic dinner-date you had in mind.