Hi,
I need some advice, my girlfriend split up with me a few weeks ago, we had been going out with each other for a year and abit and really got on with each other really well from the start. In september of last yeah my girlfriend went to uni, from the start she didnt enjoy it and found it very differcult. Because she was about 3 hours drive away from me i would go up and she her as much as i could and she would come back to her home town quite alot to.
For the first 4 or so months things between us were great and we both felt that we had grown closer regardless of the distance. We had always had a close and special relationship which neither of us wanted to end. However she was finding uni very differcult and wasnt enjoying her course,the people up there or the life style, we used to talk about how she felt and i would try and make her feel better and give her adivse because she was getting very depressed, upset and confused.
Sometimes she would say i am going to stay at uni would you move up her with me so we can be together all the time and other times she would say whats the point i am going to leave becasue i aient happy here and i dont want to me here. Then resently she experienced some family loses and uni became even harder for her, and some of her problems from when she was younger started to come out, she started seeking proffesional help. Since her recent loses and experiences she has stopped telling me how she is feeling, if i ask her she just says i am fine or everything is fine and shuts me out which really hurts.
She met some new friends up at her uni resently and has started to enjoy herself abit more, going out etc, and now she says in order for her to make uni work she has to split up with me, she says she doesnt feel anything for me anymore. I asked her if there was anyone else or if she had started to see anyone else and she said no, and i trust her when she says that because i believe her. I just feel that maybe she is just spliting up with me as an excuse maybe to make it easier on herself and for the wrong reasons. I dont no how she can have gone from being in love with me so much and talking about living together and making plans for the furture to saying she feels nothing for me in such a short time. Maybe she doesnt love me anymore, i just find that hard to understand.
She is my first real love and I was hers, but it is just hurting me so much. She has been under alot of pressure from her family to go to this specific uni and make it work, I just feel that i love her so much and i want to help her though everything and anything. Can anyone give me any advise? What should i do? Should I just try and let her go? I am just so confused.
I would welcome any advise