Sex on the first date

[KenThePartyMan]

I agree with all of you...IceQueen brings a good point about STD's and I like Fawn's views...Innova & Alex make some good points aswell...

Here is what I think..two consenting adults that make it as far as the bedroom on the first date is find with me. If I am with a woman that I just met and everything is just getting all hot and sexy, I'm not going to push for it but, I have no problem busting open a three pack and slapping skins...I was with a girl for two years and we did it the fist time we met so I don't think it kills a chance for a real relationship.

On the other hand it wont be much fun for me due to the fact the I need a fantasy to build up about a girl before I can even get in the mood. I guess I don't need to build one up for everyone because if I'm ready to rock...I'm ready to rock...But I guess about 80% of the time I do need a mental fantasy for the girls I am with. Sex is much better I the person your with is the object of all your wet dreams...

The only thing I do NOT agree with is to masturbate instead of having sex. I don't feel its right to deny yourself of anything...That becomes a problem...It's one thing to have a lack of options but just wrong to deny yourself from what comes natural. In everything that lives there is natural instinct...eat, drink, sleep, sex, ect...If you don't live now then when are you going to start?

[squirrley]

Well Ken you're not the stalker type, so that's good. My ONE and only experience w/ a one nighter at 18 nipped those in the butt. He came after me and was constantly showing up at my door proclaiming his loce for me and just was down right freakish. Yea I was all horny and thought the guy was goodlooking after a few beers. Live and learn.

As far as the taking care of yourself...you're 26 why wouldnt you want to go and experiment and have fun. I'm at my prime, but I'll be damned if in todays bs would I subject myself to god knows what! Protection or not, no way. And I certainly cant see having the guy fill out an application of his sexual history before! That and he'd say anything to get into your pants.

I'm not as I'm sure others here feel masturbating IS as natural as eating, drinking, and sleeping. I want to live a long prosperous life, not one where I can look back and say "Yea, I had 40 some partners..." I agree that people should enjoy themselves and with others, and building up the fantasy with that person. Guess cause I'm older now and see my friends who have sex w/out thinking of consequences or w/out emotions know why they dont have relationships and cant find the "one" they want.

It comes down to each its own, experiences and or lack of. And if you have self respect. I dont disrespect those who do one nighters, I dont judge people, for me, it's just not what I want for my life. I'm NOT afraid to admit that I didnt have sex for years until last fall. And now on that running streak again. It doesnt bother me at all, it actually heightened the sex with the person I was with, he loved it, and so did I. IT's been 7 months again, and who cares. I'll wait for the right person...

[KenThePartyMan]

Yes, masturbation is a naturals thing that is not a thing that is usually taught to a person. I hope I did not come off as saying don't masturbate, just have sex...The point was more about enjoying your life... Living life to the fullest...This goes with everything and not just sex...It goes with food, clothing or anything. I might be reading everyone's posts and thinking the wrong thing myself. That alot of you live in an eggshell and are scared to breakout. I'm might be wrong and probably am because I don't know any of you.

My life is so crazy that I think I have a warped view of how things should be. Everything in my life has to do with some form of sex...I host alot of hot body and wet t-shrit contests...I have loose women asking me to take pictures of their tits every night... and I have even gone as far as doing porn...

I do have a classy side to me...I get invited to the best clubs and restaurants...end up at fashion shows and hang with celebs...Back stage at hot events and for the most part get anything I want for free...I see alot and do alot more so if I seem to surprised at some of your posts its because most of the people I talk to are like me...I do enjoy this forum and I hope you like what I have to add to it.

Not sure where I was going with this post here but I have not slept in about 30 hours and have wrote about 5,000 lines of code today for one of my websites.

[squirrley]

I like you cause your open about stuff! Your posts are fun. Dont get me wrong either, I'm not a prude by NO means. I love to have fun. You're in one of the best cities to enjoy things like that. Where some of us dont have those opportunities to go out.

Lived in Lansing MI for awhile and experienced some awesome strip clubs and even ventured into a gay club, now that was interesting as hell.

You have already brought stuff here that's been fun to delve into.
Thats what makes this place great, different people from all over.
I was only stating my opinion on stuff. I love sex as much as the next person, I'd RATHER be getting it on with someone than myself, it's kinda hard though when he's half way around the word for the next 3 months...

People should have a great time life is too short man! I dont want and am not living in the little security box hell cant reveal why, but I'm out on an adventure thought I'd never do! Its great. I think you have to keep in mind that everyone here are different ages and see things differently at those ages! Know what I mean. At 21 I was all over the map, doing god knows what. But still having fun at my age....i dont ever really want to grow up...

[KenThePartyMan]

I hear that... when I was 18-22 I was even more out there then I am now...

[dazedandconfused]

alexi, try to compensate; that's what i do. i make up for my left hand's lost opportunities by taking it out to dinners and staring at the stars together. fortunately, i am so dazed and confused (naturally), that my left hand doesn't know what my right hand is doing, literally. whew, what a relief realizing what trouble i'd get into if only they met.... "you don't love me!" etc. ignorance is bliss

[KenThePartyMan]

eeewwww

[sfalexi]

At 21 I was all over the map, doing god knows what

hear that... when I was 18-22 I was even more out there then I am now...

I'm 21 and I stay at home every day. Weekends included. Although the next two weekends I have big plans but in general, I like to be left alone. I really don't like strangers too much unless I'm FORCED to meet them.

Bet you'd never guess that by me posting all the time here, huh? But seriously, I hate parties and social scenes where there are tons of people I don't know. I have my circle of friends and like to stick with them. And unless I'm FORCED in a situation to meet strangers (like a new job, in a classroom, etc.) I'd much rather just be alone. Guess that's another reason why I'm not much of a dater, huh?

Alexi

[IceQueen]

The only thing I do NOT agree with is to masturbate instead of having sex. I don't feel its right to deny yourself of anything...That becomes a problem...It's one thing to have a lack of options but just wrong to deny yourself from what comes natural. In everything that lives there is natural instinct...eat, drink, sleep, sex, ect...If you don't live now then when are you going to start?

Taking a sandwich out of your bag and eating it is just as satisfying (or sometimes more) as going to a diner.

[KenThePartyMan]

Originally posted by IceQueen
Taking a sandwich out of your bag and eating it is just as satisfying (or sometimes more) as going to a diner.

But just looking at that sandwich and never taking a bite will make you go hungry....


Life is too short to just live safe till you die...have fun...take risks...Don't wait for life because it will pass you by and then its too late...

IceQueen...ever wanted to do something but did not because it was too risky? Then later wished you did...

[IceQueen]

IceQueen...ever wanted to do something but did not because it was too risky? Then later wished you did...

No, never. Looked at stuff and DIDN'T want to do it because it was risky, yes. Never regretted anything I did or didn't do, either, because I like to be of sound mind when I make my decisions so I don't regret them later, you?

But just looking at that sandwich and never taking a bite will make you go hungry....

Invalid analogy.
Looking at that sandwich is looking at porn.
Having an orgasm (obtained either way) takes care of horniness, end of story.

Life is too short to just live safe till you die...have fun...take risks...

Ever heard of consequences? Getting yourself into shit is not fun, it's downright stupid.

[KenThePartyMan]

No, never. Looked at stuff and DIDN'T want to do it because it was risky, yes. Never regretted anything I did or didn't do, either, because I like to be of sound mind when I make my decisions so I don't regret them later, you?

This is just bull...everyone has regrets...even if its a small one you have them...your not perfect...

Invalid analogy.
Looking at that sandwich is looking at porn.
Having an orgasm (obtained either way) takes care of horniness, end of story.

Glad you understand what your sandwich analogy ment because I did not...BTW, how did you get porn from my analogy?

As far as my view on masturbation to kill horniness ... masturbation begins with lust ... lust for something we all are born with ... the need to procreate ... just because you shot the load does not mean that want is gone ... to deny this need will kill ones humanity.

Masturbation is a great way to explore your own sexuality but to replace sex for it is just wrong ... Granted ... some people are doomed to a life without a partner but that is just due to a lack of options ... I'm not talking about people like that ... I'm talking about people who can and just don't because they will not break out of their shell and live a little...

Ever heard of consequences? Getting yourself into shit is not fun, it's downright stupid.

Just like I was saying...you must not be too fun ta hang out with...

[IceQueen]

Just like I was saying...you must not be too fun ta hang out with...

Our definitions of fun differ. Greatly. You wouldn't be fun to hang out with for me, either. More than half of what I'm saying to you never gets there, so I don't think I'm even going to bother, anymore.

[KenThePartyMan]

Everyone I go out with has fun...I just don't think you have fun..You seem like you don't want to...You also seem like you don't like people...I there a reason why you never have a nice thing to say...on just about every reply I have read from you it seems like you have alot of anger....The name IceQueen is a name that does fit you sweets...I don't mean to be rude and I don't want to fight...lets just agree to disagree....

[LightOn]

One night Stands spoiled me, I sometimes have regrets BECAUSE of them. I was lucky enough not to contract anything or get anyone pregnant, but the taste of all that "success" spoiled me into just that kind of "success" My attraction towards a particular woman ended after getting what I was after. Regardless of her personality. I was ambitious to fulfill my lustful desire, and only that. I created my own expectations of an ideal woman. I "knew" what wanted then, and I got what I "wanted"
Just from many different women.

The first hint of possible "pressure" a female would apply to me.
I told myself "I can do better than this" or " I don't need this" or "Her problem, not mine" As true as all of them may be, it doesnt take the other to "be good enough for you" It takes you to be good enough to another.