taking breaks?? good idea

[sexy_kuta]

hey sup ppl

im kinda feelin blue,

me and my girl had being going out for a month, and to tell you the truth we rushed into it,

i really love her and i still do, she just wanted to take a break, she had some other issues with her life and she said she didnt wanna a relationship right away
she said give her time and she will see whats up later

so basicly our relationship is gettin in our way with the way we live.. but i know we could always work thing out between the two of us..

im confused. you think this will work out and we will get back together? we still talk lots
i want her back cuz im not the same without her

[clynn]

If she wants a break, then give her space. The more you pressure her for a firm answer or to spend more time with you or talking with you, the further you will push her away.

You know what they say - set it free, and if it comes back to you, it is real.

[sexy_kuta]

i sometimes think shes playing games with,

i dunno waht to doo,

it hurting me right now. alot

[sexy_kuta]

i been thinking lots....

shes 17 and im 15, yea big difference but thats not what love is all about

meh i could care less, why should i suffer like this just because of some Bi0tch? hell noo

imma move on with my life, i'll find more

she was my first crush. first gf, and i treated her right.. and its her loss not mine

i got more important stuff to cover than to worry if she will come back or not

i been reading alot of posts on here and they helpd me... thanks guys

[TenorTwo]

I don't know, man.

Thinking in terms of "it's her loss, not mine," can be really unhealthy. Going from loving her and missing her to being over so quickly is a touch odd, to me. Does no one agree?

You need to stop and think about your values. What does this girl mean to you? Will it be easy to find someone else? Do you think there is someone else out there who matches your personality and makes you happy the way she does?

Ask yourself a few of these.
Are you really sure this is what you want?
It's your life, live it.

[sexy_kuta]

your right man,

i dunno love is always my weakest aspect of life,

i want her, i love her, but i am going to give her space... im still havin feelings for her, but i cant bare it.. im looking myself.. i have a feeling that we wont get back together

i know i wont find anyone like her, she was my first... i could have had a gf long time ago but soo many girls werent my type so i didnt wanna waste my time on them.. this one is special... it hurts alot,
whats really bugging me is does she love me back? she does phone me alot and we talk hours a day, but i guess ur right, she is going through hard times.. imma leave her alone.. maybe talk to her once every two days, instead of 4 hours a day

i cant even eat cuz of her.. i dotn feel like it, if i do i'll just puke it back up...

and its gonna be hard if we stayed friends... cuz imma think to myself, i once had her... now shes gone like that

[sexy_kuta]

shes seems happy.. and i know that,

im thinking she doesnt want a bf right away.. because we rushed into our realationship
maybe shes using the break part for an exuse? she seems fine to me. but then again i know her marks are low and maybe shes better off like this. i just dont wanna make the wrong choice.. breaking my own heart

[Junsui]

I don't think it's love anyways.

[sexy_kuta]

well either way if its love or not

we were both happy with each other

and we were good at expressing our feelings to each other..
i find it funny.. that we still talk as we were going out :S

[clynn]

Yah, that's a long time to be talking if you're not going out.

Maybe you're right. Easing up on the phone calls is a good idea, allow you time to focus on your own stuff and her time to focus on her schoolwork, etc.

[Tone]

I don't know, man.

Thinking in terms of "it's her loss, not mine," can be really unhealthy. Going from loving her and missing her to being over so quickly is a touch odd, to me. Does no one agree?

You need to stop and think about your values. What does this girl mean to you? Will it be easy to find someone else? Do you think there is someone else out there who matches your personality and makes you happy the way she does?

Ask yourself a few of these.
Are you really sure this is what you want?
It's your life, live it.

Yeah that's all good.. but... the dude is 15...

If he was older I'd say great advice, but he's 15 - he needs to get over it and move on.

[sexy_kuta]

i want a deep relationship and i know shes my type,

i was thinking lots and i know why she wanted a break, shes afraid of commitment, shes not ready for it.. she told me she wants to be single but she doesnt know why.. and shes not the type of girl that would **** around with guys.. my (girl) cousin knew her for a while... we met at a social through my cousin and i talked to her about 10 min that night.. the next morning i talked to her.. it took about a week til we met which was at her work she wanted me to get down there but it was a long ride she didnt want me to take the bus so i suprised her.. after an hour and 10 min of the bus ride.. i gave her a rose, single rose with, the orange with a red tip... we chilled for 50 min because thats how long her break was.. we talked alot, walked around but we didnt hold hands or kiss then...
the same day she said she wanted to be friends for a while then maybe hook up later but i took it the wrong way.. i took it as she never wanted to hook up so i was depressed.. didnt know wtf i was going then i hit my head on a sharp edge. got a few stiches.. when she found out, she was crying to my cuzin on the phone and i had a total of 9 missed calls from her in 30 min.. the time i turned my phone off.. (note that its hard for her to call me cuz her parents are home.. they are very strict) so we starting goint out after that.. i guess she felt sad for me.. it was fun for the month.. we were always open to each other then after our first month she was acting a lil different so i asked her.. if she wanted me as a bf or a friend because we talk about everything so i wasnt worried but i found out she wasnt ready.. because a month before she met me at the social she was dating some guy for 8 months... and shes not fully over him but doesnt talk to him at all.. .she still calls me and bugs me like before so i know she likes me.. and im thinking shes just afraid of commiting to me.. so imma give her space.. not too much.. well i dunno how i should give her space.. we still talk like before and we still flirt i just left the bf/gf talking on the side..

she said just give her time and she will see whats up and we might get back together but she said she couldnt gurateed nothing to me..

she is feeling happier since the break, she told me that
but im afraid of turning into just friends...

i miss holding her

yesterday she phoned me from the mall and i didnt pick up thinking that giving her space is the right idea.. later that night she told me the reason she phoned me is because she wanted me to come down so she can see me..

so im really confused.. all i can think of is giving her space.. talk friendly/flirty..
and yea thats it

she even got me a gift for xmas she said she wanted to get me a gift no matter if we broke up, she wanted to leave me with something that reminded me of her..

[sexy_kuta]

i need help guys.. and girls
i dont wanna act too much of a wuss and then she wanna become friends..

but i dont wanna leave her either

[Rosebud]

I think this girls problem is she wants to be with you and thinks about you as if you two were dating but she has a hang-up on the whole title of a relationship (associated with commitment problems) well if she wants space then let her call you, you can answer when she calls just don't you do it. You let her call the shots for a little while. Since she's telling you one thing and doing something else, leave it up to her to decided when she wants to have space and when she wants to be with you. The only thing I can say here is you can either go with the flow because she may relaize she's happy with you, or go the "no contact" route and move on. But those are only options right now.

[sexy_kuta]

i wanna go with the "move on" thing cuz im thinking she picked me only because she needed to rebound...

she came out of a 8 month relationship and then picked me up after a month..i think she was rebounding.. things were great between us because she needed someone to stay with and talk with and i was that one.... we did everything romanticaly... for an example we would be french kissing then slowly stop and whipser to each other how much we love each other then continue to do it..but it looks like that didnt mean nothing.. then she dumps me after a month and extacly 4 days..and still calls me.. i dunno if she is messing around with me or whatever.. i think imma just call it off, tell her to basicly off but in a soft way... im too hurt over this whole sistuation.. i commited too easily for the both of us...

she dumps me and the only reason she has is she wants to be single but she doesnt know why.. and she still calls me everyday and flirts with me just like as we went out..

she had like 4 bfs before too... i wanna make this work out sooooo badly between us but i just dont think that can happen.. imma just leave it and move on...