Can u help me guys!?!

[Charlyx]

Hey there! Sorry it's a bit of a long one!! Would be grateful if people could help me, esp some guys.

There's this guy who I am absolutely crazy about but my only problem is that I can't firgure out whether he actually likes me or whether he is just messing.

I've known this guy for about a year now as we work at the same place. We never really talked but then I was invited to at party at his house where we seemed to hit it off. We spent most of the night dancing and him following me around. He was really protective and wouldn't let anyone near me. He said that he thought I was beautiful and when it was time for me to leave he didn't want me to go.
Then when I went back into work he said Hi but that was about it. He claims he couldn't remember what happend. After that we just became friends and got to know each other better. He used to put his arm round me and call me his little chick, and on Christmas day he ran up to me hugged me really tight, kissed me on the cheek and wished me a happy christmas, and that was about all that's happend.
Then I was at work on new years and we were talking and it turned midnight, he kissed me and said happy new year and then we ended up sneaking into a private party that was on. And he led me to the dance floor where we danced to all the love songs. It was dead sweet cause were both as close as you can get and he was singing to me in my ear. When the songs finished he said thank you and that was that.
Then we had a staff party and I didn't really get to see him much. When I did see him I said that I thought he was gonna come up and dance and he said he would if I asked him. In the end we both ended up on the dance floor once again, we kissed load of times and we were having a great time and we couldn't keep our eyes of each other. It was kinda funny cause he was singing Uptown Girl to me hehe. Anyway everybody was watching us cause they thought we were dead cute and then this girl came up pushed in between us and stuck her tounge down his throat. Worse thing is that he didn't push away. So there's me once again left on the side. I was a bit upset and not long after he came and sat beside me and asked what was wrong. But I didn't say anything, then he took me and sat me on some stair. He wanted to tell me something but people kept coming in. He told them to sodd off but in the end he got dragged off home.
Since then he has been REALLY flirty at work, and keeps rubbing himself up against me and sneakily nudging me. He always sings cause he knows it make me smile and he always tries to make me laugh when I'm standing in the resturant. He recently had another party and when I got there he basically ignored me, he didn't even say Hi. Why?? Cause he has a new girlfriend. When I went to work the next day he started being flirty again, so when he came to cuddle me I pushed him away. And after that he seemed really hurt and was really quiet. Then at the end of the day I gave him a hug and he was fine. Now he's always got his hand round my waist, and tickerling me etc. And he said that he thinks I'm hot and he's really flirty and cheeky, like he asked me whether I would lick chocolate off his chest if he rubbed it on there. Now he picks me up for work in the mornings and we often go down the pub. He's constantly trying to involve me in his life, he's even asked his gf if I can go roding with her. Is this cause he just wants me as a friend??
I really can't figure this guy out because he gives me the signs that he really likes me and people say he does, but then he droppes me back down again. What does he want from me?? I would just walk away from this guy, but I care for me so much and I have so many really strong feeling that I can't help but give it.

Can anyone help me PLEASE! C'mon guys you must have some ideas.

Thank you for your time.

x x x

[IceQueen]

he has a new girlfriend.

This is where all the questions end, and you move on.

[PandaCivic]

i agree, why bother unless you are good enough to take him away from her. which is wrong anyways cuz then it goes to where you need to be in that situation to realize it's wrong.

[Ironliftr3]

Sounds like he's trying to have his cake and eat it too. He has a girlfriend, and still wants to 'play' with you, which is very unfair to you. Tell him to get lost and don't turn back this time.

[PandaCivic]

unless you want the emotional heartache you will suffer after this whole thing, then everything is good to go.

[sfalexi]

Sounds like he's trying to have his cake and eat it too. He has a girlfriend, and still wants to 'play' with you

That's what it sounds like to me too. Sounds like all he wants from you is some sex and he's trying to get you up to that point.

My clues?

I've known this guy for about a year now as we work at the same place. We never really talked but then I was invited to at party at his house where we seemed to hit it off. We spent most of the night dancing and him following me around. He was really protective and wouldn't let anyone near me. He said that he thought I was beautiful and when it was time for me to leave he didn't want me to go.
Then when I went back into work he said Hi but that was about it. He claims he couldn't remember what happend.

He was looking for some action and didn't get it, so he didn't want to bother with you afterwards.

He used to put his arm round me and call me his little chick, and on Christmas day he ran up to me hugged me really tight, kissed me on the cheek and wished me a happy christmas, and that was about all that's happend.
Then I was at work on new years and we were talking and it turned midnight, he kissed me and said happy new year and then we ended up sneaking into a private party that was on. And he led me to the dance floor where we danced to all the love songs. It was dead sweet cause were both as close as you can get and he was singing to me in my ear. When the songs finished he said thank you and that was that.

Once again, thought that maybe on these "special holidays" (christmas, new years) that maybe you'd be in the 'mood' and so figured that if he treated you nice all night, you'd get all cozy and loose in bed with him. Didn't work, so he said "Forget it" again.

Anyway everybody was watching us cause they thought we were dead cute and then this girl came up pushed in between us and stuck her tounge down his throat. Worse thing is that he didn't push away.

Cause he doesn't care who he gets pleasure from, as long as it's someone. Apparently he must've thought this girl was probably a better shot for his one night stand and so forgot about you while concentrating more on her. Then he came back to you and asked, "What's wrong" because he still wants to have a shot at you and not lose that opportunity completely.

He recently had another party and when I got there he basically ignored me, he didn't even say Hi. Why?? Cause he has a new girlfriend. When I went to work the next day he started being flirty again, so when he came to cuddle me I pushed him away. And after that he seemed really hurt and was really quiet. Then at the end of the day I gave him a hug and he was fine. Now he's always got his hand round my waist, and tickerling me etc. And he said that he thinks I'm hot and he's really flirty and cheeky, like he asked me whether I would lick chocolate off his chest if he rubbed it on there. Now he picks me up for work in the mornings and we often go down the pub. He's constantly trying to involve me in his life

Cause he wants to have sex with you. And wants you to believe that he's interested in you. He might end up being the guy that keeps 'pomising' to break up with his girlfriend for you, but never does cause he knows he'll have you both.

he's even asked his gf if I can go roding with her. Is this cause he just wants me as a friend??

Nope. It's cause he wants his girlfriend to think that you're just friends, so when he's gone and says "I was hanging out with Charly", she won't be as suspicious, cause she'll think it was just a friendly thing after work or something.

What does he want from me??

Sex.

I would just walk away from this guy, but I care for me so much and I have so many really strong feeling that I can't help but give it.

And his plan is working perfectly. He's got you interested in him and now will try to use those feelings against you.


You want to test him? Next time you're together alone, be very flirty back. And hint that you might want to have sex with him. Give him a back rub and kiss his neck or rub his chest or something. See if he turns it down like he SHOULD saying, "Hey. I have fun flirting, but I have a girlfriend." I guarentee he won't. And get him all in the mood. Then, when he starts trying to feel you up in return, stop him and say, "What about your girlfriend?" And see if he doesn't use a line right then and there (such as how she doesn't mean a lot to him and he really is interested in you but was afriad to break up or something), or if he says something down the line about 'breaking up' with his girlfriend to be with you.

That should solve the mystery.

Alexi

[snoopy43]

This guy is a loser. If you were ''his girlfriend'', would you want to be treated like that?