not so long distance restriction

[innocent]

There's a guy I'm friends with who lives far enough away from me for us to have to make special trips to see each other. Usually when I go to see him I take some friends of mine who are also friendly with him and like to see him.
Circumstances were that one of my friends fancied him, so we all respected that and let her do her thing. She never took a move and she's not the kind of person who ever would.
The rest of us still liked him as a friend but eventually she got jealous of us talking to him and him talking to us when it became evident he didn't like her in *that* way. She started to dislike him and was eventually unhappy with any of us (me and my friends) seeing him without her, which I thought was grossly unfair because she refused to see him.
But she (this friend of mine) despite this little dilemma, is a good person and a good friend. The rest of my friends agreed to not see him.
I still talk to him on the phone and he keeps asking me to come see him or him to come and see me but I have to say no and I can't tell him why.
But recently I've come to really like him, though I only speak to him over the phone. I really want to see him but also I don't want to hurt my friend who is one of my best friends in the whole world. I think she was unfair about what she did but I'm not sure what to do.
I have told her she was being unfair because I like him *as a friend* but I daren't tell her I am interested in him as more than that, and I also think he is interested in me.
What should I do?
plz help

[snoopy43]

Your friend needs to understand that SHE needs to MOVE ON. If she truly is your friend and cares about your happiness she'd be happy for you. If she can't, I'd see him anyways. If there's something mutually attracting the both of you then go for it. I'd be honest with your friend though and tell her that you're going to see him.

[K3vMySt3r]

yes if she is your best friend she needs to understand and care for you...if so she doesn't she isn't showing a great deal of friendship that u are telling us...don't prove us wrong...talking to her about this is the best way to get over this situation...thx u for posting

[IceQueen]

Go for it, girl. If she wants you to make concessions for her (which you have), then why doesn't she consider it unreasonable that she makes concessions for YOU?

[innocent]

thank you for you replies and good advice
Now I just need to work up the courage to talk to her about it. It'll undoubtedly unearth new problems, i hope it's worth it. She'll be fine with it eventually.
My biggest fear is that I'll tell her about it but then nothing ever comes of me and the guy either. Then I lose out on both counts. To be honest I'm afraid of her reaction but I know she'll eventually understand. I'm more afraid of my other friends' reactions...
It's hard to explain. Well thanks guys and I'll keep you posted