In a slump or r we really done for??

[Cybog]

Well, at least we all now know where your priorities are vashti.

[Lloyd95]

Well, at least we all now know where your priorities are vashti.

Yo, I'd do him if he were that stinkin rich.

[Rosebud]

LOL..

Yea these situations are always really hard to handle. I myself have been with the father of my child for going on 5 years and we have a little one together. I can tell you, it has not be easy. We are not married but are planning for that in the future. I know at times it felt like I had fallen in and out of love several times with him. It's hard for me to explain that, but it's how I felt....all of a sudden I would just feel like I fell in love with him all over again.

When you have Kids sometimes you lose sight of your relationship which is understandable considering your kids should be your priority. But that also means your relationship could fall under comfortable zone (which it should be to some degree) and some things can get taken for granted. I can understand how hurt you must be and it's hard to be able to truly understand if the other person can't talk to you about it without getting upset. But then again if he gets upset, that's his way of avoiding the whole thing.

I know in the past when I wasn't able to confront my So about something that was sensitive because of his reaction, I wrote him a letter. I wasn't yelling at him, I was just telling him how much i care about him and how I feel about him and wondering where he was coming from in all that. He could read it on his own time and almost always he came to me right afterwards and wanted to talk about it.

[aripres]

It really doesn't bother me that much that we aren't married. It does but it doesn't. I totally understand his reasons for not wanting to get married. He has been married before and the girl he married got kicked out of her house for dating him (her parents didn't like him) and she basically made him feel like since she stood up to her parents for him that it was his responsibility to take care of her and let her move in with him. Well his mom did not approve of them living together and not being married and he felt stuck so he asked her to marry him. Even though the whole time he knew he didn't really want to be with her he just felt obligated. Needless to say they were only married for a year before he finally told her he wanted a divorce. When I first got pregnant he didn't want us to get married just because I was pregnant. He doesn't want to feel obligated or pressured agian, and I completely understand that. He has already had one failed marriage and doesn't want another one. He just wants to be really sure. And then I got pregnant agian 2 1/2 months after I had the fist baby (it was an accident, I was on birth control, Seasonal to be exact so BE CAREFUL). He does talk to me sometimes but it's only when he feels like it. If something is bothering me and I try to talk to him about it sometimes he will talk to me and sometimes he won't. He tells me that he just has a hard time talking about his feelings, it makes him very uncomfortable I can tell. I have written him letters (it's hard for me to talk too sometimes) but the majority of the time I get nothing in return. And I have talked to him about that and he said he just doesn't know what to say to me because he has a hard time talking about his feelings.

I just didn't know if it was normal for couples to feel as if they have fallen out of love but yet they still want to be together. That seems to be the way we both feel.

[aripres]

She thinks she lost her excitment from being on Seasonal (the pill).

That could have something to with the sexual part of it. Tell her to talk to her Dr. there are things he can give her to get her sex drive back or at least boost the one she has.

[vashti]

Well, at least we all now know where your priorities are vashti.

Yes we do. When kids are involved, you stick together unless there are extreme circumstances, IMO. There is more wiggle room when there aren't any kids. Do you disagree?

[Rosebud]

Aripres, I guess you just have to find out for yourself if it's something you can handle. You may not know exactly how he feels at all times but actions speak louder than words. And I imagine it is every normal to not be in love with someone but still want to be with them, expecially if there are children involved.

[Lloyd95]

Yea these situations are always really hard to handle. I myself have been with the father of my child for going on 5 years and we have a little one together. I can tell you, it has not be easy. We are not married but are planning for that in the future. I know at times it felt like I had fallen in and out of love several times with him. It's hard for me to explain that, but it's how I felt....all of a sudden I would just feel like I fell in love with him all over again.

When you have Kids sometimes you lose sight of your relationship which is understandable considering your kids should be your priority. But that also means your relationship could fall under comfortable zone (which it should be to some degree) and some things can get taken for granted. I can understand how hurt you must be and it's hard to be able to truly understand if the other person can't talk to you about it without getting upset. But then again if he gets upset, that's his way of avoiding the whole thing.

I know in the past when I wasn't able to confront my So about something that was sensitive because of his reaction, I wrote him a letter. I wasn't yelling at him, I was just telling him how much i care about him and how I feel about him and wondering where he was coming from in all that. He could read it on his own time and almost always he came to me right afterwards and wanted to talk about it.

Wow, I couldn't believe this post when I read it. Most specifically this part:

I wrote him a letter.

I didn't know you could write.

[Rosebud]

My dear sweet Lloyd! do you feel left out? Should I write to you as well?

[Lloyd95]

Never did get that New year's invite

[Lloyd95]

I'm coming to Detroit first weekend in Feb. to watch my Steelers; you can make it up to me then.

[vashti]

Just keep in mind her boyfriend is armed.

[Rosebud]

Just keep in mind her boyfriend is armed.

Hahah This is very true!

And sorry Lloyd, I'll be planning for my little one's birthday that week.

I didn't have the new years Party! Everyone was sick so we ventured out to another party for a little while!

[Lloyd95]

Just keep in mind her boyfriend is armed.

So? I've got two myself.

[ngwasuma]

It seems guyz are easily getting leftout