New Guy here....who needs advice

[stephen35]

Hello everyone, I'm Stephen (16) and new to this site. I kinda need help/advice in some of this dating stuff.

I've known a girl for 3 weeks now. We've been hanging around a lot recently. Yesterday, Saturday night, she told me she wasn't going to do anything and invited me to her house. She told me also that her parents were going out and that we would be alone.

Once I was on her home (at 9:30pm approx.), we were on her bedroom. She was also chatting in messenger while we were talking. You know, we were just like making company to each other. We talked about a lot of stuff and I expect some action for later. At midnight she lied on her bed and I was very close there. I wanted to kiss her or something, but didn't know how to start, I'm slow in that stuff.

In the end, we were alone in their house for more than 2 hours and nothing happened. I feel stupid. What should I have done? What can I do next time?


Thanks.

[stephen35]

Any thoughts?

[gHEXjt]

Here's what you gotta do next time Stephen, just grab her and kiss her. If you get another chance and the two of you are hanging out and lying around, just look at her and lay one on her. I know you get nervous about that stuff, but what you need to understand is that she probably wants to kiss you as much as you want to kiss her. Just go for it, nothing bad about being rejected...its gonna happen to you at some point, better while you're young if it happens.

[stephen35]

Here's what you gotta do next time Stephen, just grab her and kiss her. If you get another chance and the two of you are hanging out and lying around, just look at her and lay one on her. I know you get nervous about that stuff, but what you need to understand is that she probably wants to kiss you as much as you want to kiss her. Just go for it, nothing bad about being rejected...its gonna happen to you at some point, better while you're young if it happens.

Yeah, I will do that exactly ghexjt. However, I feel a bit ashamed of what she might think of me. Maybe she thinks its her fault, but most probable is that she think its mine. I hope this shit won't have any consquences in the future and in how she sees me.

[alice]

come on, why are you talking about "fault"? nothing wrong with what you did!

[theotherguy0123]

Your only fault is you thinking you done something wrong.

[gHEXjt]

It's nothing to be ashamed of at all. You're young, we've all been there. If she wasn't nervous too then she would've kissed you. But you did nothing wrong, so don't think like that. Just set up a time to hang out with her again, and do what I told you. If she were to look down on you for not making a move, then she is someone you don't want to be with. Next time you get the chance, just go for it.

[stephen35]

Thanks again.


Alicia, you know...dude and girl alone on her room satuday night. I know her not so much ago, so I didn't expect to get laid, but I was disapointed with myself for not kissing her.

[alice]

i know, what you're talking about, i'm still acting & feeling the same, and i'm in my thirties …

[toohot4pants]

you gotta man up

[alice]

who – me? i don't know if i want to.

[Tone]

LOL! alice you are great.

:]

[toohot4pants]

who – me? i don't know if i want to.

girls don't man up. girls sit pretty and wait for men to man up.

[alice]

girls don't man up. girls sit pretty and wait for men to man up.

ok, thanks!
i'll be sitting around till judgment day then.

[toohot4pants]

ok, thanks!
i'll be sitting around till judgment day then.

LOL! alright, that was sorta funny. but inept guys, take note...i've heard this from LOTS of female friends..."i wish he would just go for it!"..."i wish he'd grow a pair"...etc etc etc. most girls are just sitting around WAITING for you to talk to them, call the, ask them out, kiss them...so just DO IT!

i know a several girls that just said, "**** it...if they ain't gonna do it, then i'm taking charge!" and the do! these are some aggressive girls!